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Tuesday, January 16, 2018

NO PERSONAL PRIDE- ANYTHING IS GOOD ENOUGH

NO PERSONAL PRIDE- ANYTHING IS GOOD ENOUGH
By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

In the past a person who did everything right and to the best of his ability through intense effort was said to have personal pride in his work. It was a complementary overall assessment of an individual’s character. Besides it produced a feeling of gratitude in the person arising from creating something considered positive and laudable to themselves and others.

Values associated with a person with personal pride are honesty, dependability, quality of production and inner motivation to do the best in any and every endeavor.  Pride has nothing to do with boasting about oneself, dubious deeds or being a snob. The word “pride” in our traditional culture meant the best of a group or a class such as “this bull is the pride of the herd.” It showed the original positive connotation of the word “pride.” Having personal pride in doing one’s best effort was considered a wonderful attribute for any individual.

This present connotation is a corruption of the word pride. In our current culture virtues that urge us to lead a quality moral lifestyle have been targeted and ridiculed until they have taken on a negative connotation. No longer is the word pride about how well you produce something of value, precision or beauty. Instead pride has come to mean a cocky, conceited, self-centered, promoting braggart who uses his connections through networking and branding skills to gain a sales advantage. The quality of the product as well as the character of the person is less important than the immediate quarterly profit margin.

Our modern culture promotes a more direct and rapid road to economic success. The more someone brags about himself and his so-called successes the more respect he gets among the movers and shakers in the local Chamber of Commerce and with the elites in Washington, D. C. This type of interpersonal smoozing takes a lot of time and effort but may not result in a superior service or product and creates a short-term positive company image that deteriorates with age.

The connection with in-your-face self-importance has turned the positive meaning of pride upside down. It transformed the wonderful trait of a person consistently doing his best effort and the idea of work itself as something to be avoided. Work has become a dirty, four-letter word beneath the dignity of someone who is intelligent, charming or wealthy. Effort in any endeavor is for the non-privileged not for the elite who are supposedly endowed with incredible knowledge and wisdom.

Today in order to appear superior to others a person should hide or disguise his work ethic. It is cool to act effortless. Even the benefits of quality work have been called into question by college professors as nothing more than a sign of “white privilege.” According to social justice claims “meritocracy” is a means of keeping whites in power. The personal satisfaction of doing a job well has been lost especially among the indoctrinated young people. The appreciation of the work ethic and learning discipline that leads to producing an item of excellence is now seen as unnecessary and worthless.

“Just getting by” or “anything is good enough” attitudes are indicators of how far we have fallen as a competitive and vibrant society. In our present state we are accepting mediocrity and laziness as the new normal, which is very dangerous. It will lead to a great reliance on the nanny-state to bail out these non-productive, non-competitive citizens.

Our public schools are more dedicated to appeasing parents and students than keeping high academic expectations and standards. Grade inflation and high student self esteem have replaced competition amongst students, teaching facts, the three R’s and critical thinking. The few students who concentrate on their studies at home are ashamed to admit it, instead they deny expending any effort to get their high grades.

There are still Americans who have pride in everything they do whether it is their profession, craft, hobby or business. They are committed to their mission that has become an integral part of their identity. These people should be admired for their commitment to excellence not treated with distain for their hard earned achievements.

When a person can examine his product and know it is as close to perfect as he can accomplish, it confirms his purpose to others. The creative quality production of a person increases self worth. It is another building block in developing the individual’s life’s legacy.

All Americans should be thankful that there are citizens who take pride in their work. These incredible people comprise a small but powerful meritocracy of doing the best in everything they do. They are the perfect antidote to the “anything goes,” slacker movement of our current culture.  



Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.




Tuesday, January 09, 2018

LIVING IN ONE'S BUBBLE IS DESTRUCTIVE

LIVING IN ONE’S BUBBLE IS DESTRUCTIVE
By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist


Too many people have realized in our politically correct world, it is easier to burrow into a hole rather than come out and confront our divisive nation. We are constantly warned by the media experts that voicing your own political viewpoint or cultural preferences in social gatherings, even in front of one’s family might cause arguments and hostilities that could end the relationship. This has resulted in many people turning to like-minded others on the anonymous Internet. This pattern of seeking out only people who have our own values and perceptions is very dangerous for the wellbeing of the individual and the nation.

This shunning of different ideas leads to group think propaganda, divisiveness and retards one’s thinking acuity. This has been the case for too many years. The progressive establishment media has had a monopoly on the mass media for over a half century.

When a person is constantly reinforced with one message it is easy to accept it with no discomfort.  A well reasoned counter way of viewing the issue could trigger new understanding and doubt about the previously believed idea. The more nonsense statements that are repeated without discussion and questioning, the greater the chance it will be adopted as a “cultural truth or fact.”

 Anyone who dissents from a majority opinion would be seen as a social outcast or deviant. As the minority counter culture approaches the traditional one, instability surfaces dividing the country into polar opposite realities. This not only motivates people to choose sides to be accepted by a group but shuts out opposing ideas that might stimulate an individual’s analytical powers to make better choices in the future.

Group Think creates a form of stability at the cost of balance and personal growth. The political elites dictate the acceptable values and ways of thinking. Slogans and sanctioned behaviors are stressed to conform to encourage the current cultural direction. The anti conformist traditionalists are ridiculed and prosecuted for protesting the present politically correct mandates.

Instead of a small oligarchy group determining the direction of the country, the USA has historically promoted the culture to be shaped from the bottom, up not the top down. The Bill of Rights has insured the people’s right to free speech including free press and the right to assembly. This translates into saying whatever you believe can be said to anyone without being punished by the law or public opinion.

Political correctness is a totalitarian technique to shut down open thoughts and speech. It has been used by repressive communist nations and throughout history by conquerors and kings to control their subjects. It is the opposite of the wishes of the founders of our nation. It is the opposite of encouraging self reliant, independent thinking individuals who have propelled our nation to greatness.

To keep the United States the leader of the free world, citizens need to get out of their Facebook, Internet games, selfie bubbles and become more involved with the real world around them. They should learn from actual interaction around them not from phony narratives people create about themselves to appear what they want to be not who they actually are. The real consequences of individual actions and their judgment by others teaches those who happen to be around them the good and bad results of going down certain paths. Being “non judgmental is an integral element of political correctness.

This same open-eyed assessment of cultural and political directives and actions are essential in keeping our leaders from straying from the path of righteousness. Without the people voicing their opinions, elites will subtly create a gradually introduced self-censorship for the people. This self-censorship will enhance and maintain power for them.

The people’s voice frightens the establishment about the possibility of losing their power. This wakes them up curbing their appetite of domination by making them realize they are not perpetual American kings or dictators: the ruling class. Without the safeguards of aware citizens protesting their antics we will become slaves to an all controlling and brutal existence. Our liberty would end.

It behooves each of us to do our duty and to come out of our comfort zone regardless of the aggravation and annoyance it causes us. Americans have too much to lose to selfishly withdraw from significant political debates.

Living in one’s bubble does nothing to educate the person to maintain the nation as a free constitutional republic.



Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.



















Tuesday, December 19, 2017

WHEN WILL WOMEN BE SATISFIED?

WHEN WILL WOMEN BE SATISFIED?
By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist


Many women have broken the “glass ceiling” in a corporate world. Most are receiving equal pay for their professional service positions. In the last presidential election a female barely lost the election to become the leader of the free world.

Women have a legal right to abort an infant on demand even when the husband or partner does not want to end the pregnancy and the infant’s existence. Females currently comprise 60 % of the college graduates in the United States, while males make up only 40% of individuals successfully completing degrees.

On the home front an increasing number of men are staying at home as house husbands while the wife is the breadwinner.  Many professional wives travel during the week as an integral part of their job description. In the corporate world,  contrary to feminist propaganda, women are being paid as well as if not better than men in the same position.

Girls are being successfully encouraged through “girl power” to be highly motivated and aggressively compete in sports and academics. This movement reprogramming the natural proclivities of females towards masculine traits has been accomplished through books, movies and cartoons depicting females as super heroes. This has altered the thinking, behavior and interests of the female subculture.

Girls can now join the Boy Scouts while the boys cannot join the Girl Scouts. Teenage females are being openly offered STEM scholarships that the boys are not eligible to receive. On college campuses girls are being rewarded with additional power in determining sexual assaults. The men are automatically presumed guilty of an accusation by a female student until he proves his innocence. On college campuses there are contracts drawn up by a dating couple as to acceptability of sexual interactions between them. The young males are at the mercy of the subjective reaction of female peers since female statements are accepted as totally true.

This empowerment of females seems to have impacted the female US Representatives in the Senate and House. Almost all the female members of congress, both republican and democrat, were united in insisting that all women should be  believed about male sexual assaults. This extreme feminist position has become adopted by the chic culture. According to this PC notion, women should be believed on face value, in other words, “women do not lie.” This is ridiculous on its face. Everyone: children, adults of each race or nationality, ethic group, or even our politicians, lies. Almost every human lies in some form or another.

The feminist momentum of automatically convicting all men solely on the word of a female without due process should cease. This is not blind justice but social justice to rectify supposed discrimination against women.

There have been many despicable, indecent, evil males throughout history. On college campuses women studies consistently teach that all men are violent, oppressive, rapists who objectify women as sex objects. On the flip side of this coin, women are honest, passive, non-aggressive victims of ruthless males. This feminist narrative has spread into the progressive culture but not into the traditional one.

Traditional Americans understand it takes two to tango. Females do lie, threaten and attack others in certain situations. Ask any divorce lawyer, psychologist, policeman or teacher if females should be believed or supported at all times.  Obviously there are females who dress provocatively, verbally and physically attack others including men and use their feminine wiles to lead men on.  This type of woman uses her feminine powers to tease, belittle and control men.

Both sexes have bad players who victimize innocent people and good players who support and protect others. Each gender is made up of human beings with both positive and negative behaviors.

The average male in the United States is much more sensitive, considerate and respectful towards female feelings than ever before. Yet the feminists continue to raise their absurd standards of what modern men’s behavior should be. It seems many females will not be satisfied until all men are treated like predators.

Females have made men more aware and altered them and their cruder behaviors. Enough is enough, men will never be perfect nor will females. Both need to look at their own imperfections and realize neither will reach perfection. This understanding creates tolerance for others. Maybe then they will distinguish between good and bad males and females judging their character not their gender.

Treating everyone fairly means that each has the opportunity for due process to occur to determine who is telling the truth. Blind justice unites people and gives everyone the satisfaction that the matter was settled properly and justly.


Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.








Wednesday, December 13, 2017

BEING STRAIGHT BUILT AMERICA INTO A WORLD LEADER

BEING STRAIGHT BUILT AMERICA INTO A WORLD LEADER
By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist


“Being Straight” became a pejorative term in the 1960s. It was redefined by our mass media and Hollywood as a boring, predictable person who wanted to do everything in the right manner. They were described as people who did not have a hint of charisma or creativity.

Adults who came back from the devastation of WWII wanted stability by building stable families. Children were expected to listen to parental commands and follow them like the good soldiers they needed to be. Fathers found civilian jobs in blue collar and corporate worlds. They financially sacrificed their own interest for the sake of the family’s future. Many stayed in the same business for their entire working years. They earned well-deserved bonuses and retired with a watch or plaque for their loyal years of service. They were family men.

Most of the wives were dedicated stay-at-home mothers. They had cookies and milk prepared when the children came home from school. All the meals were home cooked with the children helping out with the household chores including cooking. She was the manager of the household while the husband earned the bacon. Both were willing to sacrifice for the family by curbing their entertainment, personal purchases and other interests for the family’s betterment. They saved money instead of spending it.

Children were expected to do well in school. They received severe consequences for not obeying the school authorities. There was little second-guessing, questioning or fighting authority’s decisions. When a child persisted in rebelling against authorities in the teen years they went into the military or work force. All youngsters were well aware that by 18 years old they were expected to go out on their own with no handouts coming from their parents.

The script for growing up was crystal clear. You were supposed to be the best you could be. Teenagers were to become quality young adults by doing their duties to God, family and their own future. Anything that could embarrass the family was to be avoided at all costs. Everyone worked and did their duty as a team.

Everything on the home front was not perfect but in general the family was a strong unit. Not all people followed these standards and expectations. Some male veterans returned home psychologically and physically damaged. Many turned to alcoholism and irrational outbursts. Some women had a difficult time handing over some power to their husband after being solely in charge for so many years. Others wanted more freedom outside the house and resented being merely a housewife. Some teenagers turned away from their families and towards gang approval becoming juvenile delinquents.

The 1950s were relatively stable and productive in increasing family financial level. Divorce and out-of-wedlock births were rare. Our public schools reached highs in academic performance much above the sunken levels of today. Economic production rose rapidly and so did the middle class salary and benefits.

The cultural revolution of the 1960s totally rewrote the script of traditional standards and expectations for America. Being “straight” became a negative. “Cool” people were the ones who walked on the wild side. Hippie communes lived in the here and now. This meant when one stoned affluent member’s assets ran out everyone abandoned the commune and found another. “Sex, drugs and rock and roll” became the rally cry for the Cultural Revolution proponents. It was all about selfish, personal interests and the abandonment of the family unit.

Productivity was not part of the concerns of the movement. Cultural chaos reigned. Woodstock was the zenith of this part of the Cultural Revolution. Many of the founders of this movement, Abbe Hoffman, Jerry Rubin, and others wormed their way into the establishment becoming bankers, lawyers, actors, politicians, media personalities, professors and many other professions.

These self-proclaimed geniuses have finally turned the culture upside down.
Straight traditionalists have become evil and worthless. Perverted behavior became chic. Che Guevara, Charles Manson, Bill Ayers: SDS leader, killer and later Chicago professor, and other malcontents even outright violent criminals were given the status of liberators. The Cultural Revolution implemented the new social order; Progressive ideals such as political correctness and social justice were instituted. Our country lost its status as the beacon of freedom, liberty and justice in the world. The Cultural Revolution has been a horrendous failure.

Let us reject the non-workable, hypocritical and unjust Cultural Revolution. Bring back strong families, God, high standards and severe consequences for contemptuous and evil acts. By bringing back the clearly defined, God fearing, straight culture, America will regain opportunity and moral strength as the leader of the free world.


Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.





























Tuesday, December 05, 2017

THE NEGATIVE IMPACT OF OVERDOING POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT

THE NEGATIVE IMPACT OF OVERDOING POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT
By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

Lately there has been an over reaction to negative comments directed at individuals. “You did this or that wrong,” “You will never be a success.” These were statements people directed at loved ones half a century ago. The typical reactions were negative but others felt it helped the youngster wake up so they could change destructive habits and patterns.  Today parents say the PC positives but wind up not liking or spending time with their children.

Social scientists have come to view all negative assessment as toxic for human development. Their solution was to make almost all negative comments seen as abusive. This movement was initiated in the 1960s. It has been the acceptable approach for over half a century as a universal truth. Currently negatives have become politically incorrect almost everywhere.

Like many “scientific” statements about food and beverages these too are cyclical. Coffee was good then bad and now positive for your health. The same goes for eggs, the sun’s effect, tomatoes, bottled water, soy products, wine, cheese, butter and many other products. The beneficial or negative effect of a food, drink or anything is altered because of changes in the cultural preferences, appropriate dosage, and depth of research or technology at the time. “Universal truth” seems to be less than absolute truth.

Positive reinforcement given on a schedule of 8 positives to 2 negatives was the new formula for raising psychologically healthy children. The more positives the better as children had to have high self esteem to function optimally in today’s world. This philosophy was a staple of child rearing, psychological therapy, family counseling, public schools, penal institutions and most intervention programs for mentally dysfunctional individuals. Any spanking or displays of anger towards children have become abusive. Only heavy doses of positive reinforcement became acceptable in raising children and treating psychological issues.

The positive reinforcement movement led to a “false high self esteem” avalanche. Grade inflation was used to help poor students feel better about themselves in school. Many schools started giving students 40 points before the test began. These unproductive students felt better about themselves in the short term but their academic learning did not improve. They became delusional about how well they were doing compared to others students. Most of them were stunned when they could not remain in college after having received incredibly high grades in high school.  Many for the first time in their lives faced failure and its inherent suffering.

Parents started micromanaging their children so they did not have to face failure and consequences. These parents would forcefully intervene with teachers, law enforcement and coaches to make sure their child would always be rewarded. Children playing on sports teams were given the same playing time as better players and all received the same trophy just for being there, not for outstanding performance. Competition was stricken from sports activities and from school. Everything was sugar coated to eliminate the bitter taste of losing.

Assessments of everyone done with honesty and integrity went out the window. Everyone, no matter how vicious their actions, was treated with kindness as they were considered victims of their circumstances. Bullies are treated in the same manner as victims, each receiving the same weak and innocuous consequences. More and more negative consequences were removed not to hurt the feelings of acting-out, harmful youngsters or even hardnosed, hardened criminals.

The results of giving high doses of positive reinforcement have been a disaster. It only delayed the realization that only through perseverance does a person become disciplined and reach excellence in a particular area. Positive reinforcement as opposed to negative is totally out of balance. Short cuts to feeling good like someone telling you that you are better than what your performance demonstrates has become a common charade.

A person becomes better only after they work towards excellence. It is beneficial to have authority figures and peers giving honest criticism. When the feedback is dishonest, the individual loses the understanding of how to attain a higher level of performance and motivation to improve.  

In any contest giving a false assessment of one contestant is a death sentence for becoming better or even the best. Only by knowing where you stand as compared with other competitors can you improve your game. When you interact with the best you will improve by learning what they do to become winners. When you develop “false esteem” you run out of time to turn yourself around and become a success. This is reality not scientific fantasy.



Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.