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Thursday, September 29, 2011

SLUT-WALK PLACES FEMALES IN JEOPARDY

SLUT-WALK PLACES FEMALES IN JEOPARDY

By Domenick J. Maglio Phd. Traditional Realist

Rape is a violent, horrible crime and should be punished by the fullest extent of the law. It happens to both males and females. It is a devastating violation of a person’s human dignity and freedom. The victim often feels partially responsible for not preventing the rape from occurring. The incident is replayed in the victim’s mind usually focusing on behaviors that could have attracted or repelled the perpetrator. Regardless of the appropriateness of the victim’s actions, shame enters the picture. Shame is the major reason that rape goes under reported for both sexes, especially males.

Rape’s social stigma is strong across cultures. Law punishes the predator, but the victim suffers self-imposed as well as social humiliation. Advocates of women are attempting to lessen the pain of the stigma of being raped by dismissing any and all behaviors that may be aggravating factors. This is a serious mistake that is sending a dangerous message to young people.

This summer supporters of the liberation of women sponsored “Slut-Walks” that took place across the USA and Canada. These protests were aimed at attempting to debunk the notion that a victim’s dress and behavior should be considered an invitation to be assaulted. The leaders of the movement want our society to stop connecting provocative dress and behavior as elements in provoking a rape. According to them victims should never be blamed for any provocative behavior because it is all about the physical aggressor: men. Some women even go so far as repeating the slogan: all men are rapists.

This movement believes when men learn to control their animal instincts women would be freed to fully display their sexuality without fear of repercussion. In this idealistic world, real men would learn to transcend their animal nature and women would be sexually liberated to do what they desire. By mentally castrating men to deny their sexual nature, females gain total sexual freedom. They envision men acting as modern eunuchs to satisfy their female free expression. In essence they want their freedom without any responsibility. Liberated women cannot have it both ways.

This would be a laughable, juvenile notion if it were not so dangerous to females. In the real world all behavior has consequences. It should not be, but leaving your car door unlocked is an invitation to thieves. Walking through a high crime area appearing fearful and weak attracts muggers like a shark to blood. Going alone to a bar late at night and leaving with a total stranger is not a highly self-preserving act. Every risky behavior increases the level of excitement as well as the potential of harm.

Reality forces all of us to limit our personal freedom to increase our security. No woman deserves to be raped although certain behaviors increase the probability. The indoctrinating of females to believe their flamboyant behavior and dress does not increase the probability of becoming a target of physical assault is stupid to the point of being criminal. Stupid thinking leads to delusional behavior. Whenever anyone increases the risk for a particular outcome, the person should acknowledge it.

Liberated females want human nature to be different but it is what it is. All of us need to behave in ways to help us survive. Ignoring the possibility of a common reaction of males being turned on to flirtatious behavior is naïve and irrational. Drugging and drinking increases uninhibited actions that increases the risk of doing things one would regret when sober. When around others in an altered state of consciousness a person should be alerted that there is no more predictability to anyone’s actions.

Girls need to learn that seductive behavior could be bad for their safety especially in certain situations. Playing sexually teasing games might have no ramifications with friends but may be a different story with strangers from a different subculture. Young females must learn there are real dangers to being sexually indiscreet.

All men are not rapists but many men can be aggressive. It is better to be cautious than to be stupid. Liberated women cannot expect the world to be different just because they snap their fingers. They must mature into rational adults and stop being perennial teenagers.

There is nothing wrong and everything right for a woman to act like a lady rather than a slut. Besides it is better to be aware of one’s actions in public than to make a display of oneself that is regretted the next day. All mature adults of either gender should be personally accountable for their actions.

Dr. Maglio is the author of Invasion Within and Essential Parenting. He is a psychotherapist and the owner/director of Wider Horizons School.

Visit: www.drmaglio.com.

1 Comments:

Blogger ProfessorPyg said...

I have always believed that Spider-Man had it backwards; with responsibility comes power. When you give up your responsibility for your own safety, you give up your personal power - your autonomy. You infantilize yourself. There is such a thing as contributory negligence in any criminal scenario, be it theft, murder or rape. There are different circumstances. There are degrees of severity. Trying to gather all possible scenarios of "rape" under a single definition and absolve the victim of any responsibility is foolish; once you wipe out nuance, you are left with a "guilty until proven innocent" mentality which endangers innocents. There are lots of things that people shouldn't have to do in order to protect themselves, but that doesn't excuse people from doing those things in the interest of their own safety. Basically, getting blackout drunk is never a smart thing to do no matter who you are.

Lots of salient points made, sir, although I would say that using words like "slut" undermines your argument in the eyes of your opponents. They don't like that language and will use it as an excuse to strawman you.

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