BOYS NEED TO BE AND SHOULD BE BOYS

BOYS NEED TO BE AND SHOULD BE BOYS

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

Our culture has to stop emasculating boys or men will quickly become a rarity in our nation. Men may be considered to be toxic to radical feminists but they are necessary to have a viable, diverse and healthy society.  Without men our nation could not survive. American men have been the main warriors to preserve democratic governments throughout WWI, WWII, The Korean War, the Cold War, and turmoil with the Islamic terrorists that continue today.

Nineteen-sixty radical feminists and their feminist converts in women’s study programs foolishly blame every past evil of our civilized history on men. They do this by creating a biased anti-male narrative while ignoring the impact women had on these events. The “us against them” feminist mentality has distorted and convinced young minds of both genders against normal and natural traits of males and females.  Duke University’s Women’s Studies Program concerning toxic males purports to reprogram men by “deconstructing toxic masculinity” while learning to worship femininity. Being a “good boy” today means a boy has to take on the behavior, attitudes and mannerisms of a female.

Boys fight each other then usually make up as friends, while girls often hold a grudge and back stab each other for long periods of time. Highly competitive boys who play to win are punished in public school. Most of the physically competitive activities have been eliminated in school. The energetic child who would rather run around outside rather than sit passively in a classroom is usually classified negatively by school personnel. In the past they were considered disinterested or rowdy pupils. This phase was followed by “poor students, or emotionally disturbed” when young to juvenile delinquent tendencies as teens.

Today these behavior classifications have been solidified into mental disabilities such as ADHD, Conduct Disorder, ADD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, anti social personalities or others. When boys react against being confined in a feminine school environment, predominately taught by females, they are often reprimanded by the teacher.  Rather than altering the educational environment the boys are labeled. Schools have become so unfavorable to males that they currently comprise only 40% of the graduates from college.

Boys need to be and should be boys, as our society needs tough men to remain viable and strong. Men are not only essential for procreation, protection, providing, being warriors and most importantly for raising healthy children especially the males. Fathers are more firm, no nonsense-obedience trainers, who gives their sons definitive parameters needed to remain away from anti social behavior. Male role modeling and the direct teaching of their children to deal with the harsh realities of life are imperative for the success of children.

The father sees the world from a different perspective. They understand the advantages of being risk takers with a strong dose of courage to gain advantage over other people competing for the same prize. Fathers understand the male subculture and that perseverance, mental toughness, and ability to handle adversity is the path to success. Compassion, tolerance, politeness, consensus making, manners, proper appearance, and compromise are values, attitudes and behaviors that are highly touted by the female.  This difference between the male and female perception is the reason why a two parent: father and mother family, gives the children of both genders a firm foundation for functioning in a world made of both male and female perspectives.  The distinctive difference in their approach, ideals, mannerisms and means of reaching their objectives creates interdependency between the sexes. This balance creates harmony needed in high functioning and united civilized society.

When one gender or the other totally dominates the culture, eventually the nation is weakened. When women are disrespected for all they do, the family and the nation suffer. The same happens for the males when they are not appreciated for all they do. Disunity destroys the cohesiveness that binds the male and female together making the entire unit suffer. 

The Boy Scouts accepting girls in their program does not change the differences between the genders. It does eliminate important experiences where boys can be boys that give radical feminists a victory of disbanding another sanctuary for them.  Yet the biological and other differences remain. These differences between the sexes attract and bond them together.

Boys and girls are hardwired and physiologically different because each has different functions in life to perform. God’s grand design cannot be socially engineered out of existence without causing great harm to the individuals and the very survival of the species. 

Boys and girls should be proud of their differences, not be ashamed of them. A radical, small interest group has no right to trample on young boy’s nature to satisfy their insane and selfish interest to punish half of our population.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.