MARRIAGE HAS MANY PERSONAL AND NATIONAL BENEFITS

MARRIAGE HAS MANY PERSONAL AND NATIONAL BENEFITS

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

The 1960 Sexual/Cultural Revolution was a not too subtle attack on the institution of the family.

The “Me Generation” was breaking away from their parents who financially supported their casual, affluent university lifestyle. The leaders of a movement not only promoted free, casual sex they also relentlessly mocked the institution of marriage. The professors at that time were the political activists behind this incredible cultural shift. These so-called educators were proud advocates of this cultural civil war.

The mantra of these young college students and hippie generation was “don’t trust anyone over 30”. The irony of this message was the mastermind professors were often over 40 years old. This movement was overwhelmingly cheered on by all the power of the progressive media, feminists and institutions of education. The democrat party embraced anti-establishment tactics and most of the progressive agenda of the cultural revolution.

The hippies and other students that were younger than thirty-years-old were going to get older in the blink of an eye. They were by no means the smartest generation, but they were up until that time, the most egotistical. These students were being used as pawns by the intelligentsia to create an army of young people to change traditional America. These elites wanted a more powerful centrally controlled government with less freedom of independence, choice, intolerance, openly mocking and sarcasm of past moral values.

The political leaders behind this revolution realized that strong marriages and families supported a self-sufficient free market society. This system was more stable and less likely to accept government handouts with strings attached. It had to be weakened and eventually eliminated to bring about the socialistic changes they wanted.

One of the ways to disrupt stable marriages is to paint marriage as an exploitation of females. The narrative was that females were “slaves” to their husbands. Men had all the freedom to play around like a carefree guy with all the opportunities to do what they chose while women were captives in their home with their children tethered to them.

This constant negative description was incredibly effective. After graduating from high school many young females went to college instead of starting a family. Many mothers who had started their families joined the labor market leaving their children with relatives to care for them and later to daycare centers. Once these changes began, they quickly gained momentum.

University education for the more affluent females to gain their “Mrs.” became a place to earn their independence in the professional arena. Marriages were delayed in the average couple’s life, which limited the number of children born to each family. Divorce increased as the juggling of the roles of wife and husband became more confusing. The access to more intimate contact with the opposite sex in the work world challenged marital stability.

This increased the number of blended families. This greatly complicated the logistics of parent and children’s lifestyles with visitation, child support and most devastating, the child’s stability. Too many children are being diagnosed with developmental and psychological disorders caused by conflicting messages. This has led to new blended family issues for both divorced parents and trauma for the children.

Marriage is difficult enough for stable birth parents but is a ticking time bomb with many different adults in the mix. These nonbiological parents with additional baggage inherit this tangled web of relationship difficulties that have no simple answers. All this unfolds in front of the young married couples who have shied away from having children or having only one.

This significant increase in single children families has affected our childrearing practices. The parents of a single child usually have no other children to interact with to learn how different each child can be. This has resulted in their children having limited social skills and lack of self-control.  Too many of these over protected children have become takers/slackers instead of independent doers.

The limited number of replacement children has caused other national issues. A shrinking population can cause a critical lowering of standard of living and military defense for lack of soldiers. Without national family stability and strength of our moral values the problems in every facet of our society increases.

We should not and cannot turn away from traditional marriage without the inevitable loss of family and national cohesiveness. The USA needs to use special benefits and rewards to encourage marriage, rather than discourage it. Solid and functional marriages are the glue holding a society together. Healthy marriages are the key to functional families, a strong military and a vibrant nation.

Let us change the tone of discourse on marriage to a positive one for our nation’s future.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.