MOTHERLY HOUSE FATHERS NOT DOING THEIR JOB

MOTHERLY HOUSE FATHERS NOT DOING THEIR JOB

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

Since the 1960s Sexual Revolution the stereotypical behavior of men and women began to merge and shift. The Feminist Movement encouraged girls and women to be more assertive, aggressive and directly competitive with men in what was the masculine domain of sports, higher education and business. These progressive elites have used federal laws like Title IX to give females unfair advantage in these areas.

The progressive strategies have effectively changed traditional male behavior.

Boys and men are more sensitive, display crying in public, have more delicate speech patterns in tone and meaning. The new males are less confrontational, less direct in their conversation while being willing to say what the other person wants to hear rather than what they truly feel and believe. Men have become socially more conniving, subtle and more tentative in their interactions with others especially females. Natural masculine behavior has been branded as obscene.

The feminist movement has manipulated political pressure in universities and the media to reverse these traditional natural roles. Currently many male students are required by women’s study programs to “detox their masculinity” meaning they have to prevent themselves from acting like a male. These efforts have born immense changes of many cultural aspects in America. The social engineering of gender behavior has been a frightening success with unintended consequences of a large number of people becoming gender confused.

Increasingly modern men have opted to take the role of “house husband” and opted out of taking the role of being the primary provider. This role for men had been very rare. Historically the males primarily were the hunters, gathers and protectors while the females were in charge of child rearing, preparing the food and maintaining the homestead. This division of labor was a direct result of the physical, psychological and emotional differences of the genders. Women gave birth, nursed their offspring, nurtured and taught cultural norms while the male’s strength and aggressiveness were more suited for going into the wilderness to provide food and protect the settlement.

Too many fathers have been saturated through television, magazines, and higher education courses to emulate and imitate female child rearing techniques and strategies. Receiving adulation, affection and favors from many progressive females and males have reinforced this new feminist/male lifestyle.

Many of our institutions have propagandized these men to be friends with their children instead of disciplinarians who teach their offspring by moral value lessons to prepare them for their future. The modern father should be empathetic with his children to be their BFF. This approach is even more detrimental when the father has total control of the child as the primary stay-at-home parent.

The housefather usually attempts to role model his modern concept of the perfect mother’s behavior and even tops it. He is softer spoken, more understanding and protective of his “ litter” than most mothers. These artificial nurturing males not having the maternal instinct over compensate. The househusbands are becoming the caricature of the over smothering mother.

Children have a double dose of “loving” but little effort to toughen them up to be socially, emotionally and industriously prepared for becoming competent and appropriate citizens. The problem for the children is they are ill prepared for the outside world. Due to the lack of training, these children often do not meet the standards and expectations of society including school. Many of these children have to be retained in a grade not because of intelligence but rather to help them develop basic academic skills, social abilities, and proper behavior that are not being taught by the home father but used to be taught by the mother. The children are the victims of the child development switch of the rules of parenting.

As always the pathetic lack of competent parenting is not blamed on the well-intended/ineffective housefather, but on the child. These mishandled youngsters have to suffer an incompetent father who poorly imitates a mother. The youngsters, not the modern fathers, are diagnosed with numerous mental health disorders.

Sperm donors who were never fathers, absentee fathers and now home motherly fathers are not role modeling their traditional role.  Strong, and at times dominant, male figures that instill the fear of God in their child are becoming almost non-existent. These were important people in a child’s life. Their word was never in doubt as they did what they said they would do. These manly, aggressive individuals certainly were never friends but were respected for their resolve and keeping their word.

These fathers were the force that kept many children on the straight and narrow. Without strong men in the family the statistics clearly show the male child is apt to be less functional and more likely to have behavioral issues.

Motherly fathers cannot replace traditional manly fathers. The children need the nurturing of the mother and the laying down the law and enforcing it by the father. The natural and instinctual reaction of both have from time immemorial existed. Both these types of approaches are as needed today as in the past to raise a healthy child.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.