Is it Provincial to Be Truthful?
IS IT PROVINCIAL TO BE TRUTHFUL ?
By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist
We are living in an era where lying can get you places and
telling the truth can make you an outcast- a pariah. Being truthful makes a
person a potential threat who by his presence puts others in an uncomfortable
position. He may say something that will expose another without knowing it.
Young children who instinctually attempt to distort the
facts to get out of trouble or to minimize their punishment are considered to
be clever. Many modern parents find it cute when their child tells a whopper of
a lie and often proudly repeat the story to others in the child’s presence. The
parents are unknowingly encouraging their child to be a more creative disguiser
of his real intentions.
High achieving students often get to the top of the class by
taking shortcuts like having their parent or tutor do their homework, copying a
peer’s work and outright cheating on tests.
“Shortcutting“ is often dismissed by parents as their child’s ingenuity
in getting ahead.
Modern parents are aware that the best deceivers are the
ones to win the race to the top not only in school but in business. Companies
take their biggest liabilities and employ an ad campaign to create spin to
positively redefine their product. Lies lubricate the image of too many large
entities.
Liars are considered “artful” in making themselves look
good. Politicians are artists at reinventing themselves to erase inconvenient
past policy mistakes and inappropriate incidents. They often employ damage control experts who
are the ultimate craftsmen in minimizing a person’s errors by diffusing the
responsibility of the act.
Individuals that have the ability to circumvent the truth
and its consequences are considered highly sophisticated in our superficial
culture. Although these people are loose with the truth, they are usually in
high demand without any stigma attached to their devious methods. However, in
the long run their self-importance leads them to take stupid risks that implode
their high-flying life style.
On the other hand in our politically correct culture the
habitual truth speakers are often considered Neanderthals or worse SOBs. These candid people are often considered in
our culture to be crude, uncaring and insensitive to the feelings of
others. They are not looked upon
favorably because the truth often hurts, especially when another is exposed for
being dishonest.
These plain speaking people refuse to go along with the
crowd. They have strong moral convictions. These self directed, straightforward
individuals confront ideas that push others to evaluate their own thinking and
behavior. They do not need or want to conform to the latest fad.
Being honest or dishonest has been flipped upside down. An honest person was seen as the bedrock of a
community. They were dependable and responsible people that others could count
on to do the right thing. While in the past the habitual liar was considered a
con artist who liked to take advantage of decent, innocent people. They were phonies who talked a good game but
everything they touched crumbled and lost its value.
Today being frank makes you almost a naive agitator. Some
people even label them “extremists” in their telling the truth and
unwillingness to bend the truth to gain acceptance. These non-deceitful
individuals are supposed to be too ignorant of the nuances and subtleties of
playing political games at home, at work and in the community to advance
themselves. This makes them at best nuisances and at worse, impediments to
progressive change.
According to cosmopolitan
people we cannot go back in time to a more simple existence where honesty was
the best policy. We must re-educate
morally direct people to better comply with a duplicitous world.
When lying becomes an acceptable means of reaching one’s or
an organization’s objective, the nation’s moral fiber is weakened. A society that condones lying undermines its
institutions. Any nation that promotes and tolerates liars will lose its vigor
to prosper and even to survive.
Honoring people who have the courage to speak the truth will
keep us on the straight and narrow path to moral strength. The backbone of a
moral society is plainspoken people who cut through all the veil of deception
to keep us from falling prey to evildoers.
It is not narrow minded, unsophisticated or provincial to
search for the truth and be truthful. The opposite happens when a person is
guided by living a truthful life. The truth expands one’s appreciation and understanding
of the world. It sets one free.
Dr. Maglio is an author and owner/director of Wider Horizons
School, a college prep program. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.com.