HONEST REPORT CARDS AND CONFERENCES ARE ESSENTIAL FOR STUDENT IMPROVEMENT AND INDEPENDENCE
HONEST REPORT CARDS AND CONFERENCES ARE ESSENTIAL FOR
STUDENT IMPROVEMENT AND INDEPENDENCE
By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist
When a student, teacher and parents meet together, many
positive things can take place. By honestly interacting with each other,
pertinent information can be exchanged that will be an accurate snapshot of the
child’s present strengths and weaknesses. This picture will certainly change
over time although the strategy developed by the process will hopefully keep
the student moving in the positive direction.
Most parents want their child to do well from the beginning
to the end of their education. They often have difficulty accepting teacher
conference statements and report card comments. When their child does not do as
well as the parent’s expectations, most parents view it as a negative
reflection on their parenting. A student
receiving outstanding grades provides the parent with bragging rights to put a
decal on their bumper that says “My
child is on the honor roll.” Most modern parent wants their child to be a
winner in every endeavor attempted. This
is unrealistic and unfair for the child’s emotional development. No one can be
the best in everything.
Report cards in preschool are not the same as transcripts
for college. The type of courses and grades are evaluated by college search
committees to decide on students who are acceptable for their college. However,
preschool through eighth grade is the interval for the development of social,
academic, time management and critical thinking skills, which are essential for
doing well in future endeavors including academics.
When the child complains that he received lower grades than
he expected, instead of the parent saying work harder and your grades will go
up, the modern parents become an advocate for their child’s grades. The parents want a grade to be changed upward
to make the child happier for being recognized. These parents fail to
understand that the lower grades than they expected can motivate students to do
better the next marking period. Starting the first marking period with high
grades can result in student complacency and grade inflation for a student and
eventually for the entire class.
Besides the fact that no one is perfect, the parents who
expect and demand their child be straight A in all subjects is missing the point
that we all have to learn how to overcome our shortcomings. These are healthy
challenges. The straight A student will hit a wall in learning in a particular
subject. It is up to the student to figure out a beneficial means of getting to
the other side of the wall. These self compensation experiments might not be
emphasized or even mentioned on the report card although in the long run is
often more important than a GPA (Grade Point Average.) In the lower grades
report cards are more subjective than they are in higher grades where there is
more objective subject material. In the lower grades skills, attitude and
discipline issues have to be taken into consideration too.
The student needs to view the report as an honest assessment
of his improvement as a student. A report card to parents should demonstrate
their child’s actual growth in all areas not just how well he is doing compared
to fellow students. Growth, not bragging rights should be the criteria of the evaluation
of their child’s educational development. They are insisting on high grades for
their child from the first day he enters school. Parental rages have been the
impetus for bureaucratic appeasement.
Inflated grades have become a disincentive for students.
Students need to realize their effort and studying have a
direct impact on their increased comprehension of the subject matter. Each
person involved in the conference deserves the respect of being part of this
process especially in the higher grades. An honest attempt to present the
student’s behavior and attitude in an accurate manner encourages everyone
involved to view this educational event as a productive and positive one.
The evaluative process is a necessary one to keep everyone
on the same page. It informs the child that there are real consequences for his
effort and attitude. Parents and
teachers become aware of the growth of the student’s academic attributes and
maturing behavior. This feedback assists everyone. It keeps everyone on his
toes to motivate the student at home and at school.
Ultimately it is the student with or without the support of
his parents, teachers or administrators who has to take control of his own
education. Becoming an independent learner even with the help of others is a
decision made by the individual.
Domenick Maglio, PhD.
is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and
owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is
an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN and a new just published book, entitled, IN
CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at
www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.