PARENTING IS MORE THAN BEING A FRIEND

 PARENTING IS MORE THAN BEING A FRIEND

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

Many Americans have been indoctrinated by intellectuals, Hollywood, and the media to believe that being a buddy to a child is the best formula for being a good parent.  According to this philosophy a parent who is viewed as a friend will raise a better adjusted and less defiant child. 

 

A mother on the beach was the recipient of her 5-year-old daughter throwing a lump of sand directly at her face. She responded with nothing more than a confused look. In a restaurant a shouting 10-year-old child is ignored by everyone around him. A toddler runs away from his father who responds with pleading, “please stop.” A father with two daughters less than 8 years-old tries to get them into his car without success. At best these friendly parents might be able to gift negotiate (give child a gift to behave) with their child or just accept their outrageous behavior.

 

Parents have no concern that the inappropriate behavior will metastasize into severely destructive behavior affecting others and the child. The responsibility to train children for the future has become a thing of the past. The main concern of most modern parents is their child acting appropriate in social situations when they are present not like past generations who demanded appropriate behavior even when they were not there.

 

Today parents are more concerned that they appear to be “nice” to the children rather than appear to be old fashioned, mean parents who were strict but got the job done. Acting as a relaxed jovial parent is more important than teaching one’s child lessons that will be lifelong parameters to keep the child on the straight and narrow path to a successful life. 

 

The concept of children being respectful to others when the parents are not with them is no longer important. Modern parenting is concerned with here-and-now appearances. Parents are not preparing the child to be an appropriate, successful adult with strong moral values, thinking skills and the lack of strategies to prevent developing vices. 

 

Another wrinkle to not being a strict parent is in the child rearing philosophy of “permissive materialism.” The parents are instructed to ignore or allow inappropriate behavior in a public setting. When a child wants some expensive material item and demands it by crying or screaming, they believe it is better to walk away rather than deal with the child that may escalate into a yelling match. If the child said they passed by whatever attracted them, the parent is supposed to buy them the item they desire if they calm down. The parents win peace, but the child loses the opportunity to learn positive ways to behave in the public arena. 

 

Parents are the primary teachers of proper socialization of their children. Without their invaluable lessons, a child cannot become compliant. Often the child that has not received these lessons, will probably not be “normalized” but labeled by friends, relatives, neighbors, school, and the mental health community.  Having a serious social problem will cause them to be shunned. When parents only play the role of friend, they limit their child’s future. 

Presently in our culture some unionized teachers are stating they are the primary influencer of their students. Many teachers have sadly inherited some aspects of the role of the parent.  Too many parents have withdrawn from their primary role as the teacher of their child in the parent’s pursuit of their extended adolescence. Too many parent’s schedules are overloaded with work and socializing with their peers. This puts the child on the bottom of their list of priorities. 

 

It is true too many parents are abdicating their duty as parents. The parental obligations have been passed on to government agencies from preschool to high school. This permissive-materialistic approach to childrearing has been a colossal failure. Our government schools, administrators and teachers cannot pretend they can fulfill the role of lazy or unwilling parents. The American parents need to return to being actively involved with their children as they are the backbone of our society. A free nation can only exist with healthy families as role models who make good choices while behaving in a godly manner.

 

Raising children well is not a parttime job. It is the most privileged duty adults who are blessed with a child can accomplish in their life. Raising a child is not easy. It takes love and an incredible amount of effort to do it well. Saying “no” to a child or taking a stand with a child is not easy or immediately rewarding although it is vital to create a productive and healthy adult.

 

Being a parent is much more than being a friend. It is being a loving but strong role model that teaches children the reasons and manners of being an exemplary citizen. 

 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

WHEN WE LOSE OUR PERSONAL INTEGRITY, OUR NATION SUFFERS

WHEN WE LOSE OUR PERSONAL INTEGRITY, OUR NATION SUFFERS

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

Before social media, during the age of face-to-face interaction, people were judged by keeping their word. If they said they were going to do something, the majority did it.  When they stated they would meet you at a certain place and time you could count on it. One’s word was incredibly important then.

 

In this modern era where much of our work and social life transpires on the internet, people say many things that are exaggerated or untrue. Much of the chitchat is to impress others.  Internet contacts appear and disappear constantly in this artificial social media world.  The truth is not discernable.

 

A businessman says he will come to give you an estimate but never shows up or bothers to call back. Another interaction could be a contractor who gives you a price for a job but when they arrive to do the job the price is often higher than what was agreed upon. Even when a contract is signed for an agreed upon price and the contractor does the project but may add an extra 20% increase due to cost of materials or gas surcharge without informing the purchaser.

 

Advertisers for the pharmaceutical industry have developed a formula to captivate the individual’s attention with devious psychological messaging. Advertisers emphasize the positives of their product and hide the negative side effects that are said so fast no one can understand them. The customer only gets the best half of the story.

 

Even when a person is with family or friends, too often they will take out their cell phone and speak with someone else. It is easier to create one’s ideal world online than deal with real friends and family who know you. Being someone you want to be is much harder with people who know you than it is with people who only know you superficially online. 

 

The uncertainty of an employee’s word is becoming an increasing concern. Employees say they are committed to the job but often show up late, resign by email or take off due to a “hangnail.” Their word does not match their original stated commitment.  This is disconcerting as we no longer can depend on the what the person says. Employers are often guilty of not keeping their word either.

 

As a nation we are losing one of our most important values: a person’s word. Once a culture cannot depend on the individual’s sacred word, lying becomes normalized. When people lose their integrity no one can feel comfortable about what is going to happen. When we are unable to depend on a person’s word, things become unpredictable and even chaotic in one’s life. 

 

It is hard to determine whether the breakdown in honesty originated in the corporate world, or between the wealthy and the politicians who are on the take.  This corruption of honesty has become so prevalent it has been adopted on many governmental levels. Even our government schools have funded public relations departments to handle any possible scandal that might reach the media. 

 

Our media is no longer searching for or printing the truth but are advocates for national and international authoritarian leaders who are fighting for a one world socialist-communist government. Our media is writing propaganda to support this movement and distorting the facts to create false narratives to portray the United States as evil and collectivism as inevitable. Any factual material that is difficult to deny is labeled as misinformation and is cancelled.

 

Even the Biden administration wanted to create the misinformation board in order to censor freedom of speech. Our media has become an arm of the democrat party by lying to citizens to convert them into accepting a one-world-government. Our free press has become an indoctrinating arm of the establishment. The “fact checkers” only allow the party line to be told as in the current case with the IRS expansion and inflation.

 

The integrity of a person’s word is the backbone of social, business, and national stability. America’s greatness has been based on the history of our people keeping their word. We are no longer doing this nationally. In foreign affairs, and finance, our false commitment to freedom creates uncertainty then devastation in the faith of our future. Our integrity as a society has decreased making it more expensive to borrow capital to complete projects in a timely manner. We have lost our respect as a top-rated country. We as a nation have become another suspect society. 

 

Our forefathers worked too hard to maintain their word in order to create the freest nation in the world. We as a nation should not let it vanish as our word is our bond: without it we are becoming just another “tinhorn” nation.

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

                                                                                                                                                                                                

 

  

THE BEST PARENTING ADVICE IS “LIVING RIGHT,” THROUGH THE BIBLE

 THE BEST PARENTING ADVICE IS “LIVING RIGHT,” THROUGH THE BIBLE

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

 

The citizens of the United States have transformed from people who did a little bit of everything to hiring specialized people or companies to do their chores. People used to have vegetable gardens, serviced their own vehicles, repaired, or cleaned their homes and built additions as their families expanded. On the weekends family members got together to eat, celebrate, and enjoy each other.

 

The disintegration of the traditional family has radically affected our culture. Modern children are being raised by paraprofessionals, grandparents, and mostly electronic devices rather than their parents. The social mobility of modern families has made it impractical to have many get-togethers with the entire family to share their values, ideas, and practical knowledge for dealing with children. Parents are often working away or online from home. Rarely is either parent totally focused on raising their children. 

 

Modern parents are bombarded daily by parenting articles, emails, and books. Most of these publications are variations on the permissive-materialistic approach to childrearing. Parents are consistently told by the mass media about different ways to keep their children busy and entertained so the parents can handle their work responsibilities at home while trying to relax.

 

Biblical knowledge developed over centuries is comprehensive and insightful advice on how to deal with a child’s character, moral, and spiritual development.  It focuses on many responsibilities parents must set the ground rules for the child to deal with the many temptations and obligations they will encounter. 

 

Parents have many obligations to perform to keep a child on the straight and narrow path. Primarily parents should model the behavior that they want their children to imitate. To accomplish this role modeling the parents need to have sufficient time to be involved with their children. During these interactions they will naturally teach spontaneous moral lessons. “It is wrong to take someone’s possessions-it is stealing. Hitting someone because you are angry is wrong.“ The warning against particular immoral and criminal actions have to be constantly emphasized to demonstrate the many ways evil can inject sinfulness into the child. In a similar manner the children witness parents being kind and uplifting to others, helping family, friends, and strangers to reach their goals. 

 

Honoring your father and mother is learned by the children’s growing understanding that it is a blessing that these two people love them. This stage allows the parents to daily demonstrate that marriage is not easy to accomplish but pays dividends especially for them and the entire family. Parents living with virtue and self-control is not easy in any society especially in the USA where evil is ascending and relentlessly attacking all virtue.   

 

When children reach the teen years, parents should alert them and show them that associates with bad reputations should be avoided so they are not influenced by them. The parent-child discussions become more abstract such as you should not take anything from someone as it puts you in the inferior position of owing them something in return. Having sexual involvement before marriage should be avoided to clearly determine the strength of the relationship. 

 

Many leaders are attempting to turn our culture upside down.  In our government schools “social consensus” indoctrination is teaching homosexuality, promiscuous living, transsexualism, and Hollywood stars as goddesses and gods to undermine living according to traditional biblical teaching. Replacing our virtuous biblical teaching with hedonism is a modern formula to gain control of people’s minds. What was considered antisocial behavior, the power elites are attempting to normalize. Virtuous biblical behavior is currently being sold as a form of “white racism” to all ethnic and racial groups. The backlash to the frontal attack on the Bible is uniting Americans, not dividing them. 

 

Parents today must choose between two different scripts. One is being propagandized in our schools, colleges, and media with the concept that decrees “white racism” is the cause of the USA’s social and political problems. This concept is easily refuted by witnessing the millions of people crossing the US border at a high risk of sexual assault by cartels, as well as dying from heat exhaustion or drowning to come to a country that is supposed to be “awful.”  The other viewpoint is the United States decay is caused by no longer following Judaic-Christian teaching that our founders used to establish our nation.

 

Permissive materialism is allowing children to get what they want and do what they want whenever they want. They are not being taught virtuous biblical lessons that take effort and dedication and involves both parents to teach the right way to live.

 

It is the parent’s choice between permissiveness and biblical lessons that will determine the future of America: dictatorship or individual freedom.

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

 

THE CITIZENS FIDDLE WHILE THE USA BURNS

 THE CITIZENS FIDDLE WHILE THE USA BURNS

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

 

Democrats, republicans, independents, and non-voters act as if it is business as usual. Our entire reputation as the leader of the free world has vanished. China and Russia constantly taunt and ignore us as if we are the weakling on the block. Just like Rodney Dangerfield: “America can’t get no respect.” 

 

As Rahm Emanuel stated, “never let a crisis go to waste.”  The U.S. socialists have taken it to the next level, “create crises to frighten US citizens” and then they will follow like sheeple. The Chinese covid virus was an immense success. Parents were fearful for their children, older people for their lives, and everyone else was in a state of panic for their future. The “scientific government” demands shifted with contradictory dictates. Masks, social distancing, washing of groceries, variants of the virus saw the rules constantly changing.  Almost two years later, some people are still wearing masks and sneaking around to avoid contact with others. 

 

Already there is a “monkey pox” virus waiting in the wings. To add more chaos. Quickly came the rise in gas prices that were manufactured by Biden’s eliminating gas exploration, production, and transportation. The price of oil soared and so did inflation and led the economic downturn. Lie after lie is falsely blaming Putin for the oil crisis. In addition, all the self-inflicted political chaos is being fomented, the social democrats have opened a flood of immigrants at our southern border. 

 

Another self-inflicted wound is Pelosi’s visit to Taiwan. It was supposed to be a surprise but had to be approved by the Biden administration. Premier Xi spoke to the world community that China could shoot down her flight. Biden’s response was to remain silent. This crisis demonstrates the Biden administration cowardice. Not only did the US lose face with China, but we appeared as a paper tiger. America has fallen from being the world leader. 

 

In Europe many citizens have forcefully demonstrated in the streets demanding their freedom. Sri Lankan citizens have responded with riots to express their anger over the corruption, lack of gasoline, and not allowing the use of non-organic fertilizer causing a food shortage, while US citizens remain in a coma or avoid any acknowledgement of our rapid decline.

 

What are we doing as the economy is sinking like a rock? We are acting like this is normal for our nation. It is absolutely one of the worst periods in the history of the United States. We have lost our free press that should report the real news to the people. Our military has been degraded and weakened with wokeness, censorship, and vaccine policies. Our law enforcement has been downsized and made impotent by wokism and leadership that saps the morale and dignity of the force. Most importantly, most of our own socialist leaders in power believe in the great reset that will bring a one-world communist government. 

 

Klaus Schwab leader of the World Economic Forum, along with many powerful leaders does not agree with nations competing with each other. These leaders want to dictate all policy, not allow freedom and competition to reign. This is a transformation of the current world order based on human nature and replacing it with a new centrally controlled system (a totalitarian structure) in one quick stroke. Our corrupted leaders in both US political parties become even more wealthy and powerful in this new global government. We American citizens would lose our freedom, our individual wealth as we are the most successful economic nation in the world. 

 

We Americans have the most to lose.  The drastic reduction of our lifestyle would occur. The eradicating of our constitutional rights and freedom to live as we want will be most devastating to citizens. Almost all weakened independent nations are on the verge of being absorbed into this one-world dictatorship as soon as America capitulates.

 

It is hard to believe this is happening in front of our eyes. Many of us have foolishly stopped listening to the horrible news and continue to follow the insane dictates of our health and government officials. This lazy and cowardly approach is not the American way to handle crises of foreign and domestic intimidation.

 

Yesterday unbelievably the FBI and DOJ raided the private home of Donald Trump the 45^th president of the US and pending candidate for the 2024 presidential election. This is the first time any ex-president or candidate’s home was invaded by government agencies. Was this politically inspired or was there legal justification for this dramatic event during a presidential election? The allegations against Donald Trump appear to be less than the ones against Hillary Clinton and the FBI never raided her home.

 

Wake up America!

 

Only by keeping vigilant can we unite to fight like our forefathers did. This is the only way to preserve our Godly, blessed nation and freedoms. We must stand up first to our own socialist -communist politicians then our foreign adversaries to keep our freedoms and rights that were provided by our ancestors’ constitution and Bill of Rights. 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

SLAVERY EXISTS TODAY, HAS ALWAYS EXISTED, AND CAN BE PREVENTED

 SLAVERY EXISTS TODAY, HAS ALWAYS EXISTED, AND CAN BE PREVENTED

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

 

Slavery did not begin in the United States. Critical Race Theory, White Supremacy, Social Justice, the 1619 Project and other Marxist theories are being indoctrinated into our children who attend government schools. They are projecting these theories as if they are historical and irrefutable facts. Some parents of different physical aspects and shades of color are revolting against this approach of dividing youngsters by race. These unsustainable theories have directly undermined Martin Luther King Jr.’s dream: “Judge people not by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.”

 

These Marxist theories are attempts to rewrite world history by woke and Black Studies professors. The New York Times writer presumed a slave ship landing in Jamestown was the founding of the USA. The slaves were on their way to Mexico when they landed in Jamestown, Virginia where they were bartered for supplies. This article created a false narrative that our nation was founded and built on slavery. 

 

Insinuating that the US is a systemic racist one defies our nation’s history. US blacks are the most prosperous and freest blacks in the world. Blacks are protected by non-discrimination laws and have obtained the highest positions in our corporations, military and government including the president of the United States. Being only 13% of our population, Blacks comprise a large proportion of our music, entertainment, sports, and local, state, and federal government positions. Many Black Studies professors have employed Marxist social class concepts to attempt to emphasize social injustice in the United States. 

 

Most victorious conquering tribes or nations enslaved the losers of wars regardless of their ethnicity, race, or color. This phenomenon is found throughout biblical writings and world history. The Judaic tribe was enslaved by the Egyptians. The Greeks, Arabs, and Romans enslaved conquered people as their empires grew. Native tribes in America conquered other tribes taking them as slaves. Even white settlers on boats were impressed as prisoners and made slaves aboard English ships. Even successful “Black” plantation owners possessed other “Blacks” as slaves. 

 

It is true that Blacks historically were discriminated against in the United States. It is also true that “Micks”, “Pollocks”, “Hymies”, “Wops”, “Chinks”, “Spics”, “Square-heads” and many other ethnic/racial groups have been discriminated against. The word “slave” came from the Slavic language due to historical enslavement of the Slavic people. Slavery existed throughout history worldwide and still flourishes today.

 

Often established Black citizens were preferably hired before early immigrants and were paid slightly higher wages. There were indentured servants and slavery but the US corrected these injustices early in its history compared to other nations of the world. America fought a violent Civil War killing 640,000 to 700,00 American soldiers to definitively end slavery.  

 

 

Yet slavery is prevalent today. Some pundits state that there is more slavery today than there ever was before when sexual slavery is figured into the equation. Today Africans are enslaving other Africans. The Marxist mecca of China has Uyghur Muslims in concentration camps who are being exterminated if they bring attention to their plight. Some African nations are still practicing cannibalism and slavery. 

 

Child slavery has become recognized world-wide as a big business even among the political elites. The open borders of the U.S. see many unaccompanied youngsters sold by the drug cartels to the sex traffickers. Many “coyotes” charge the parents to get their children entrance into the U.S. while the coyote often sexually abuses the child on the journey. The “Epsteins” of the world, selfish hedonistic adults, have an unlimited supply of innocent children enslaved for their pleasure.

 

Many other Americans are addicted to behavior that is classified as perverted in the Bible. NAMBLA (National Association of Man-Boy Love Association) is attempting to legalize an adult male having sex with children.  Children are too young to consent to this lifestyle as they are unable to contemplate the future ramifications. In essence as a pedophilia object, they would be sex slaves. 

 

The giving up of one’s freedom to do what is right to do is slavery. Too many modern people are surrendering their freedom to gain an advantage that is not as precious as freedom. The politician who is a hack, the prostitute who is the pawn of a pimp, the entertainer who gets ahead by giving sexual favors, a union teacher who follows destructive practices to students to keep their job, a child in an out-of-control neighborhood who imitates antisocial behavior to be accepted, a corporate head who takes advantage of his customers to remain in power are all slaves to their lifestyle choices. This is self-slavery. 

 

Our freedom should be preserved to do the right things for oneself and others. This is truly the way to prevent modern slavery and remain free. 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.