YOU CAN BLAME THE “VICTIM” FOR MAKING A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLEHILL

 YOU CAN BLAME THE “VICTIM” FOR MAKING A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLEHILL

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

 

Life is not necessarily a smooth ride. None of us have a “Hollywood” perfect life. People have some wonderful periods and some difficult ones. There are many individuals today who have been shielded from the hardships of life. As youngsters they received trophies for everything they participated in even if they failed.  They were given almost everything they wanted as quickly as they demanded it.

 

When our children are not being prepared for the eventuality of loved ones dying, a divorce, or an economic decline in the family living above their means. Frequently parents are not teaching their children about the hardships other people have endured or even tell them how they went through difficult periods in their life.

 

This younger generation is being protected from facing the difficulties that come in of life. A child whose mother died when he was six years old illustrates this. The sister of the mother immediately brought him into her home treating him as her child. To get sympathetic attention, the child constantly complains that people say he does not have a mother. This makes the child’s aunt feel terrible when her nephew focuses on the tragedy of her sister’s death instead of acknowledging and being grateful for all that she has done for him.

 

This blessed aunt who has taken over the role of parent instead of feeling guilt needs to explain these things happen. She should point out how many people have overcome far worse experiences such as being put in an orphanage. He should be thankful for living in the aunt’s loving family. 

 

Another life stage that can be difficult is the process of aging. The operative advertising word for older people in our population is “I got my life back.” The cause varies from more energy from balanced fruits and vegetables, improving one’s teeth with an inexpensive dental process, better sleep with “my pillow,“ or medicine that solves all the problems of aging. The elder’s life was not robbed from them, they just temporarily fixed a natural problem of aging. They should review their life and thank God for their health even though they have more pain and less energy than younger people. Positive things happen if we are willing to recognize them.

 

Our culture has moved from being thankful to focusing on the negative expression, ”shit happens” to the modern psychological version, “I am a victim.” According to this philosophy, any negative thing that happens in your life makes you a victim. Too many individuals are using these natural human events as personal vicious acts directed at them instead of the normal, unpredictable life journey.  

 

There are natural disasters like the major earthquake in Turkey and Syria, hurricanes like Ian that devastated the west coast of Florida, enormous forest fires in California, drought throughout the western USA. Then there are manmade disasters like the train derailment spilling toxic material throughout East Palestine, Ohio, rampant killing by drive-by shootings, child trafficking and drug overdoses.

 

The individuals who only complained and demanded help from others are likely to join the ranks of the victims. Victimhood has become so chic people are joining it by pretending to be a victim. The people who took decisive action to solve their circumstances would not allow themselves to fall into the category of a complainer since they are doers who confront issues. 

 

  An event happened this February in a condo gym in Tampa, Florida. A small, young woman was in the gym exercising when she recognized a larger man who came to the gym at the door. He physically attacked this petite lady in attempting to rape her. Being a much smaller person, she amazingly fought him off and ran out of the facility. Instead of being a victim she became a heroine.

 

Anyone can get help if they seek it, especially with all the programs available yet it is a selfish person who pretends to be a victim when they have solutions to their personal dilemmas. They should solve and walk away from their problems, but they claim to be pathetic victims of life. 

 

Too many people get stuck in their own victimization instead of picking themselves up and fighting though their life’s journey. Some people suffering from war injuries or a significant debilitating disease, a birth defect like the children in the Shriner’s Hospital, or mental disabilities have defeated their self-pity and led good lives helping others.

 

There are many people who have overcome their disabilities and instead of constantly complaining they are victims, instead they put courageous effort into overcoming them. 

 

A person who could avoid being a victim and does nothing to correct their life’s path should be blamed for pretending to be a victim. 

 

 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

EPIDEMIC OF SINGLE PARENT FAMILIES IN USA UNDERMINES OUR FUTURE

 EPIDEMIC OF SINGLE PARENT FAMILIES IN USA UNDERMINES OUR FUTURE

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

In the past, traditional households had a clear division of roles between the husband and wife. Men went to work on the land, in businesses or manufacturing industries. The wife prepared meals and took care of the home and children. The entire family usually ate together discussing their events of the day. Often both parents arrived at the appropriate method of discipline with the father taking the lead role in enforcing the agreed upon consequences. 

 

This united parental approach is too often not possible with over 40% of US homes having a single parent raising the children. Divorce also creates single parent homes when one spouse lives somewhere else. In the rest of the world only 7% of the nations’ families have only one parent. 

 

In America many of these single parent children have a higher risk of using drugs or alcohol, living in poverty, quitting school, violence, lower self-esteem, distrust of others, committing crimes and long-term relationship problems than do children of two parent families. Obviously single parent families are difficult, not optimal in raising children.

 

Mothers and fathers are genetically, socially, and emotionally different. Mothers are maternal by nature. A mother’s instincts cannot be duplicated by a male. A mother will instinctually flick an infant on the cheek if they bite her breast while feeding. Mothers can differentiate the child’s cries. Almost immediately she will tell if the child’s cry is genuine or a sign of defiance to get their way. Mothers are especially important in the early years of the child’s life. 

 

Many married couples with youngsters are switching roles especially if the wife has a higher-level profession that pays significantly more. The “home husband” is a fish out of water. Often these house husbands want to imitate the wife’s subtle, calm mannerisms without realizing the baby has been trained by the mother’s nonverbal cues to stop the child’s cantankerous behavior. Additionally, the mother will put the baby in the crib and let them cry until they stop. This takes and intuitive sense that the child is not in danger and just needs to stop crying. 

 

On the other hand, the father’s strong voice and short temper usually plays a more powerful role as the child becomes more physically independent and mobile. Father’s role modeling makes it clear for the child to comprehend strength and tenacity is necessary to reach their goals. The father’s powerful and strong method of attacking problems straight on gives them authority to prevent any acting out shenanigans. When the child demands attention, it is usually easier for fathers to get them under control than the wife. 

 

Besides this fundamental difference between fathers and mothers leaving the family, it has terrible consequences. Divorce is the death of the family. Obviously, children are devastated emotionally and socially. Either parent abandoning the children will have a negative impact on the child which too often is not resolved. In many countries where an increase in population is desirable, a monetary stipend is given when a child is born. The United States can incentivize marriages on the brink of divorce by providing marriage counseling sessions. There should be no penalizing a family by the welfare authorities if the father decides to return to the home.

 

These are significant differences between single and two parent families. Replacing a father or mother in the 40% of households in the US might be compensated by enlarging our social welfare system. Inevitably child and daycare centers would have to be staffed and operational throughout the day and night. Schools would have to expand breakfast and lunch programs to include weekends. 

 

A parent’s work schedule might be flexible, but caregivers should be available every day for the child’s protection. Even adolescents would need to be fed, clothed, and taught many social skills to be successfully functioning adults. This would put greater pressure on our government schools not only to teach academics but to handle the more psychological issues. 

 

It is true that single parents have raised wonderful children, but they are rare. For the sake of our nation’s future, we need to attempt to keep families together. We should allow money and tax breaks to families to assist them to provide the material needs of the family. We should help these troubled families to understand the terrible consequences to their children’s future if they actually divorce. 

 

The media, especially Hollywood and television, need to return to portraying families as wholesome and fully necessary to the soul of our nation. The strength of our nation’s vitality is derived from healthy families. 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OUR CULTURE HAS BEEN TURNED UPSIDE-DOWN

 OUR CULTURE HAS BEEN TURNED UPSIDE-DOWN

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD., Traditional Realist

 

The United States stood for God, country, and freedom. America was the leader of the free world and was the arch enemy of communism.  We were family-oriented people who believed in Judaic-Christian principles and values. Men were men and women respected their differences and raised the children. Teachers used to begin the school day with a prayer and flag salute. Divorce was not considered a solution to marital problems but as the death of the family. Citizens were God loving patriots. Military strength and law and order were supported and respected. Babies were a blessing and the key to our future. 

 

Preachers, teachers, and politicians were respected although citizens knew they might be faulty humans who could be tempted by evil. Those who went off the righteous and just path were vigorously punished by the public and the law. Treasonous or corrupt actions were severely handled in the military, the judicial system, and the mass media. There were no special protected classes or scapegoats. The media reported most of the evidence on both sides of the story. 

 

Beginning in the late 1950s and early 60s our nation began on a journey to become a more tolerant society by attacking values and accepting anti-traditional and grossly deviant behavior. “Deviance Down” became an intellectual fad that poisoned our Judaic-Christian value system, that elevated Satan above God in the minds and souls of our entertainment, mass media, political, corporate world, education, and even in the general population especially our children. With the woke Marxist culture, change has appeared to happen overnight although it has been metastasizing and fomenting underground for the last 50 years. These woke advocates are attempting to annihilate all aspects of our traditional history and culture.

 

The education indoctrination system in our public schools gained traction in the universities where socialist-communist professors openly shoved an anti-American interpretation of history down the throats of these adolescent students. As the process gained momentum in the 1960s so did the growth of our colleges. These institutions used their immense power to dictate the need for a college degree for almost every entry level job. It allowed our so-called “higher education” system to become brainwashing anti-American, pro-communist centers. 

 

At the same interval, in the beginning of the 1960s, Dr. Spock, a physician and socialist candidate for president of the United States, wrote the book Baby and Child Care that was diametrically opposed to proven and well-established traditional child rearing principles. His influence has grown to the point that many of the anti-discipline techniques that he endorsed have created children that are out-of-control, lazy, unproductive adults. These people have not been taught to believe in the work ethic. In these easily influenced woke minds they have been taught that the government should provide for them instead of being free to apply their energies and mental acuity to create their own destiny.

 

 

The sanctity of human life is being relentlessly attacked from conception to death. The fanatically woke elite and their followers argue that the global population needs to be drastically lowered to preserve Mother Earth. Global warming panic is being utilized as a motivator to reverse overpopulation throughout the world. The viewing of a baby as a curse rather than a blessing is being pushed by the mass media, public school curriculum, and college educators.

 

Many woke politicians are advocating legalizing abortion up to the day of birth and some radicals up to two years old. On the other side of the life cycle, doctors are often independently determing whether to preserve a life. 

 

We Americans are witnessing the attack by enemies inside and outside of our country. We see the near collapse of our traditional American values, our nation’s economic and military strength. China, on the other hand, proceeds to ignore our nation’s sovereignty by flying balloons or whatever else they want to do as if we are a paper tiger.  The balloon incidents across the entire United States and the diplomatic insults by the Chinese officials towards our pathetic president and his administration demonstrate a demoralized, corrupt, defeated second rate nation.

 

We saw the Grammy’s and the Superbowl half time show where lucifer is worshiped, people acted like animals, and God’s laws are ridiculed and ignored. This dismantling of our great free nation must be turned around immediately, or the world will lose its only hope for freedom to exist and flourish. 

 

No longer can we close our eyes to Satan’s destruction of the fabric of our beliefs, freedom, and our unity. Standing up to the evil that surrounds us is the only way to prevent the losing of our Judaic-Christian values, beliefs, and opportunity to be the best we can be.

 

Discipling our children, loving our families and country, will defeat evil and will return us to our rightful place as the leader of the free world.

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

THE LACK OF RESPECT FOR AUTHORITY IS THE ISSUE

 THE LACK OF RESPECT FOR AUTHORITY IS THE ISSUE

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

 

Today’s children act as if they are on the same level as their parents or are even “the boss.” Too many children disobey or shout at their parents in public places. There are few parameters and demands placed on modern children by their parents. Frequently the reverse is true, that the children make the demands. Parents often feel guilty for not being there like their parents were for them. Guilt prevents many parents from saying “no” to these ever-increasing demanding children.  

 

Our present authority figures such as teachers, ministers, coaches, business owners, and even police have lost the respect of the general public. Our news media is constantly exposing every authority figure’s misdeed. The media rarely highlights the wonderful and honorable deeds of the majority of these powerful role models. 

 

Police who put their lives on the line everyday are being portrayed not as role models by the media and race hustlers but as racist: whether the police are black or white. The BLM movement after George Floyd’s tragic death inspired the slogan and movement: Defund the Police. This idea was glorified by the media although 80% of blacks are in favor of the police presence as they understand the absence of police increases crime in their community.  Blacks in high crime neighborhoods know police officers are not perfect but they are better than out of-control teenagers and hardened criminals randomly shooting innocent people. 

 

The disrespect towards the police is a dangerous aspect of our society. After WWII a large portion of citizens who were drafted into the military were very different when they returned from war. These US citizens passed the discipline and obedience that they learned in the military onto their children. These parents were stronger in their discipline than parents are today. Parents and children followed orders of authority instead of being verbally or physically hostile. Complying with the wishes of authority figures regardless of their negative attitude or demands de-escalated the anxiety of the police officers. Law enforcement members understand how quickly an arrest can escalate into a free for all. 

 

While in office, President Obama spoke to the nation about the difficult conversation he had to have with his teenagers about being differential to the police if they were pulled over. He said to always keep your hands in view and be pleasant. Everyone regardless of color or ethnicity should have this same discussion with their children as soon as they can drive.  When a police officer pulls a car over for a minor infraction the situation can escalate quickly depending on the driver’s behavior. 

 

Frequently in the media there are drive-by shootings, random killings of police officers for no reason other than their uniforms identify them as law officers. No one can deny that being a police officer is often a thankless and always a dangerous job. All police officers should be leery of people they encounter, especially when they single out a stranger they are going to question. 

 

It is wise for anyone being approached by the police to realize the police officer is attempting to do his job of maintaining law and order. They have the legal authority to question a person of interest. Anyone who is disrespectful to a police officer is making a grievous error. 

 

When a person is disrespectful to the police the emotions of both the policeman and the person being questioned escalate which is potentially dangerous for both. If the policeman or group of policemen are hostile it is best to control one’s emotions so as not to cause an incident. There will be the next level of legal personnel you can speak with to correct any injustice.

 

Pro football players face physical dangers but receive great monetary rewards and accolades. Police officers face life and death threats daily in the line of duty but receive small monetary salaries and harassment instead of respect.

 

Respect makes sharing viewpoints easier. Lack of respect often ends in hostility or worse. 

The obvious disrespect of law enforcement, the most necessary position to maintain law and order, is being vilified by the media and politicians. “Defunding the police” has even been rejected by blacks in high crime areas. It is a nonsensical idea by affluent woke politicians who can hire their own armed guards for protection. 

 

These educated woke people should be required to watch old westerns. They would realize when the sheriff’s office is vacated town folks beg for a replacement. The police officer, not politicians, establish and maintain law and order. 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.