MEN HAVE LEFT AND GENTLE PARENTING HAS ARRIVED

 MEN HAVE LEFT AND GENTLE PARENTING HAS ARRIVED

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

Single parent families have become more prevalent in our culture. Most of these families are headed by the mother not the father. In black families currently 70% of babies are born out of wedlock. After a long workday mothers come home and still need to train the child to be independent and civilized. There is a lot on the plate of any working mother who has to parent their child with no male impact or assistance. Magically, gentle parenting is supposedly the new answer.

 

Women overwhelmingly are the ones responsible for caring for a child in unwed relationships that produced a baby. The reality is most children are raised primarily by a female while a biological father at best is an occasional visitor who has limited involvement with the child. Mothers by their genetic predisposition are the best physically and mentally to nurture the child.

 

Males’ absence from the family has had enormous impact on a child’s development. Women are less comfortable in being aggressive with their children than are fathers. Child development experts have emphasized non-punitive ways to supposedly get the child to listen and conform. 

 

Gentle parenting is a novel way to guide a woman to raise her child with little or no assistance from a father figure. Instead of the traditional approach with the mother being the nurturer and the father being the enforcer, this approach of “gentle parenting” has removed the concept of the enforcer in favor of a “wonder woman.”

 

The woman must become a “clinical psychologist” making the decisions using the exact amount of loving verbiage at the proper time. She has to demonstrate, empathy, respect, understanding, and give few boundaries regardless of the child’s behavior. At the same time she must employ the “three Cs:” connection, communication, and consistency while never resorting to anger or punishment which would violate the child’s feelings. “I know it is hard to put away your iPad,” “I know you don’t want to go to bed.” Somehow the mother is supposed to convince the child to do so by empathizing with the child, psychologically convincing them to do what the soft and reasonable mother’s expectations are.

 

The mother has to always remain sweet and understanding, often hugging or touching the child in a gentle manner. This approach is supposed to create a partnership between the mother and the child where the youngster is magically converted to do what the mother wants. 

 

This gentle relationship is based on empathy, understanding, and respect. In other words, it is “kill the child with kindness” that puts the youngster in a power position with the mother in an appeasing one but convince the child to do what the mother wants.

 

If the mother was going to be the only adult in the child’s life, it might work. However, the child is not going to associate with only empathetic, understanding, and gentle people but many who are more authoritarian. Bosses, teachers, judges, and peers are not always going to approach the child with unconditional love. 

 

Gentle parenting might teach the mother how to gently maneuver the child to listen to her, but it does not prepare the child for the real world with many short-tempered people who do not have a shred of empathy, respect, or understanding for a self-centered individual.

 

It is understandable that gentle parenting has become appealing to single mothers raising a child. It is impossible for these women to say “wait until your father gets home” for there is no man to act out this role in a totally female centered one. Gentle parenting has evolved around female strategies: empathy, understanding, maternal instincts, and acceptance. It is not an optimal arrangement for raising a child in a complicated culture. Men make up approximately half the population and any child should at least understand the unique characteristics and behavioral expectations of men as opposed to psychologically sophisticated mothers who manipulate their child through subtle methods.

 

Gentle parenting has not been practiced throughout history. As we have witnessed, the family has prospered with a father and mother leading a united front with their children. 

 

This arrangement allowed the mothers to have reinforcement back up so she could perform her magic in being empathetic while the father does his job as an enforcer. Mothers cannot be the loving nurturer and at the same time the enforcer as the two roles conflict. This is the reason that both a man and woman in the family has been the ideal method of raising children.

 

What our culture needs is not smothering gentle parenting without consequences and punishment. Our nation needs both mothers and fathers to raise normal children who have had exposure to both male and female figures as parents. 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 TEACH YOUR CHILD TO DO CHORES FOR THEIR SUCCESS

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

Modern parents do not want to overwhelm their child’s school assignments with chores at home. These parents are more concerned with higher grades than learning how to organize, plan, and execute small projects. The reality is when a child completes a job from beginning to end, this process will help the child do better in almost everything including their studies. 

 

Learning to work effectively on any assignment takes a series of skills that are necessary in completing the project successfully in a timely manner. It is true academic tasks use specific school terminology but completing all projects takes a series of steps that have to be done correctly.

 

Mastering chores completely, correctly, and in a timely manner demonstrates the person can follow directions and think on their feet when a problem arises. When unexpected problems arise, the individual must improvise his approach in some way to complete the project. They are forced to think and plan in several areas.

 

Children in the USA have compulsory education through high school. Most of the regular workday is spent in class. Homework has to be done after school. When the student concentrates on his homework, usually it takes less than a couple hours when they work earnestly.  Concentrating on a task to complete in a timely and correct manner takes effort, discipline, and planning.

 

When modern parents have other things to complete at home, they rarely ask their school age children to help as it may interfere with their schoolwork and projects. In the old adage,

“If you want to get something done, ask a busy person,” does not apply. An industrious youngster from their self-imposed time concerns should have learned to use their time wisely. Besides awareness of time, the more they do, the more skills they develop to get something else done after finishing the initial project. The more a person completes projects that he has determined to do, the more he gains the ability to accomplish even more. The person perfects many physical and mental abilities they can use throughout their day and their life. 

 

Modern parents desire to make their child’s existence easier as they mature is often doing just the opposite. When a person does more than they thought possible they realize they can accomplish more than others while still maintaining a standard of excellence. Their self-confidence also increases when tackling other difficult tasks. This further increases their ability to take on more of life’s challenges in a self-assured manner. 

 

It starts with little things to teach them that they can control their environment. Cleaning up and returning everything they used back in the correct place is a fantastic lifelong habit. Besides helping to keep the house in order it helps the child keep organized. This allows the parent to enjoy more time appreciating the child for their grown-up behavior. Little tasks for children like cleaning windows is a positive for the parents while teaching the child to observe the need to clean thoroughly. This forces the youngster to better evaluate their own performance. Working with the children to show them how the chores are done will help them be prepared to do it by themselves next time.

 

Helping the parent plant shrubs or planting a garden of vegetables helps the child learn the life skills to be a high functioning person. It also affects their academic skills at school. If they learn to do chores correctly and thoroughly, they will receive outstanding grades while acting appropriately in school.

 

Probably the most important purpose of parenting is to prepare the child to prosper in an ever more complex world. There is a short interval from being a child to being a young adult who is expected to become an independent one. From an early age children should be encouraged to successfully complete many tasks that are assigned to them. The more they can accomplish when they are young, the more prepared they will be later on. They have to be competent in order to have confidence in their future challenges.  

 

Almost all students who graduate from high school today either enter college or the work world. Parents have a responsibility to teach their child how to perform their duties and how to rate the quality of their performance. Banking, shopping, cooking taught by the parents and learned by the children will make them better prepared to enter the adult world.

 

Becoming a well-rounded risk taker opens new vistas to learn from and conquer. 

 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PRESIDENT BIDEN GREATEST LIABILITY IS LYING TO THE NATION

 PRESIDENT BIDEN GREATEST LIABILITY IS LYING TO THE NATION

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

 

President Joseph Biden has been the US president for almost a full term. He often stumbles walking, ending up on the ground, is at time difficult to understand, often mumbles his way through a simple discussion and forgets his trend of thought in the midst of a particular subject.

He often looks bewildered and stares into space. His firm support of money and weapons to President Zelensky has been questioned concerning the long-term benefits for the United States. 

 

These concerns are obvious but can simply be explained away by President Biden’s failing memory caused by the aging process. However, the problem is much greater than these characteristics of growing older. The greatest negative behavior of President Biden is his outright lies that are not noted or corrected by the media. His falsehoods are often unnecessary or helpful to his message, but he continually makes them.

 

Many of these lies are easily identified by even a casual dabbler in politics. This information is not corrected by the president or by any one of his representatives. The incorrect or false information is ignored by the media commentators allowing it to stand as factual. 

 

This lack of accuracy is terrible for people to witness as it allows them to think lying is normal and acceptable. President Biden often attempts to lie depending on the narrative he is trying to sell to the public. It appears every time he speaks to the nation about a national issue, he begins to speak about a personal issue to show that he is somewhat empathetic to the latest tragedy. 

 

He attempted to equate the uncontrolled fires in Maui with his small kitchen fire which was ridiculous. Another falsehood was the death of his son Beau who he said died in Afghanistan and his body was shipped back when in truth he died of brain cancer in the US. 

 

As President Biden’s statements are shown to be insensitive and lack empathy he is being revealed as a habitual distorter of the truth. According to him he grew up in a poor man’s neighborhood starting in Scranton, Pennsylvania. However, when still young he lived in an “upper class” area where his family owned a thriving car dealership.

 

To President Biden lying is an art form that has been his bread and butter. He used it as a main means of arriving at the top of politics: the president of the United States. He was caught plagiarizing political speeches and stated he was at the top of his class when he was not. Additionally, he argues he has not taken money from foreign nations while vice president or now as president of the United States which is becoming more difficult to ignore. Although there is credible documentation that he perfected lying as an art form, President Biden is the most in-your-face lying politician ever.

 

He is the Picasso of telling spontaneous lies without a scintilla of guilt. Of course, he has the aid of media silence to cover up his blatant ones. The damage of his dramatic untruths is not to his career but to the adage, “lying does not pay”, especially to our youth.

 

The USA has had great success based on our population following biblical teachings of honesty. Being hardworking and truthful have been two major cornerstones of our incredible nation. Our word has been a mainstay of our personal success. When a person is exposed as a liar he is ostracized. Most people will not want to be around that person. 

 

Lying corrodes the soul of a person and eventually exposes him for what he is, worthless.

The longer President Biden hides behind his constant lying, the greater the damage to our society. We need to cleanse our nation of habitually lying people who use it to succeed. They can be our friends, educators, neighbors and even family members. Honesty must be reinstituted as a supreme virtue. If it is not the President Bidens of the world will lead us down the path of destruction personally and as a nation.

 

Liars should be brutally exposed to eliminate the destructiveness of their acts. A well-practiced distortion of the truth can cause much anguish in the lives of people and lead a nation into self-destruction. 

 

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers and blogs, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and the latest book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.