PREVENTING SCHOOL MASSACRES IS NOT PRIMARILY ABOUT GUNS

PREVENTING SCHOOL MASSACRES IS NOT PRIMARILY ABOUT GUNS

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

People who pull the trigger, stab, set bombs or fires, crash cars into others-kill. The blaming of guns for mass killing is an absurd cover up of a society that is going down a path of evil. God’s word and commandments are being shunned in our schools and media. Being perverted, criminal, illegal, hedonistic or a pathological liar is glorified. 

Our public schools are dangerous places of indoctrination that produce too many jaded, hyper sexual, alienated, dull youngsters who are confused, frightened, bullies or predators.  Most students are only numbers that are not seen as people who have to be nurtured. Instead they are treated by bureaucratic school personnel as prisoners who need to be controlled. This prison mentality is evident in the design of massive buildings that wall them in rather than provide a welcoming, warm, safe environment.

When these youngsters get home, many spend hours watching violent video games, movies and television programing. Our culture of violence has spread to Facebook and Twitter with vicious put downs and cyber bullying. Often there is no parent or family member to teach moral values and discuss the child’s school issues that may have arisen. Meals with the entire family are no longer even expected. Whatever adult is there is harried to give the children showers and put them to bed with little to no sharing of experiences.  Thus children spend little time with their parents to learn almost anything from them. The negative behavior of the child is usually rationalized away instead of being solved. The underlying anger and pathetic thinking patterns remain. The child becomes a potential ticking time bomb who uses whatever destructive weapon he has to get his way.

Texas school shooter, Dimitrius Pozountzes posted on Facebook, “born to kill.”  He incessantly pursued a girl who rejected him. He went to school bringing not only a shotgun and pistol but also IED bombs to vent his anger.  He killed 10 people and injured 13 others at a Santa Fe school. The weapons are not the cause of the outbursts of this disturbed 17 year-olds explosive anti social behavior but instead were directly related to his mental state.

There are many serious destructive cultural forces that must be reversed to return to a more stable, law abiding, God fearing nation. Our Judaic-Christian value system needs to be revived in our schools, churches, and homes. The American people need to influence the media not be passive absorbers of the media’s trashy immoral anti social values. The abortion pipeline should be dismantled as it demeans and destroys life. Parents need to return to the home as the ultimate authority figure, teacher of their child’s moral values and spiritual trainer, not sit on the sidelines as a self absorbed, immature adolescent. These parents need to do their duty and sacrifice for their children to be functioning adults.

Finally our education system has to be revamped from top to bottom. Schools need to be decentralized to give back control and power of the schools to local leaders. This would provide better utilization of public money to establish smaller, more personal schools. These more intimate schools can teach character and academics better than one-size-fits-all massive, penitentiary style warehouses of children and adolescents.

The gun control movement is nothing more than a ridiculous frontal attack on the Second Amendment. Remove all the guns and the same criminals will still find a way to kill innocent people.  The current out-of-control stabbings in London, IEDs and suicide bombers throughout the Middle East, mass murder by vehicle, chemical attacks and many other innovations accomplish mass killings without a gun.

The simplistic and naïve thought process of public school adolescents believing guns are the main and only culprit of massacres can be understood. However, when so-called sophisticated, progressive politicians and their media cohorts proclaim this idea, there has to be another reason.  They are attempting to persuade the American people that our guns should be confiscated by selecting certain violent incidents to highlight while burying others. The Dimitrios- Texas incident did not fit their narrative as he had many different deadly weapons and no semi-automatic rifle. He was a jilted adolescent who was not on anyone’s radar. His violent explosive behavior could not be easily attributed to guns. Furthermore he came from a community and state where guns are a necessary and normal part of life for protection and food. There would be little to no community support for the illogical indictment that guns cause these incidents. This story was buried.

The magic pill of abolishing the Second Amendment will do nothing to lower mass killings but will do everything to grease the skids for elevating a dictatorship or a full blown totalitarian nation.  Remember what happened in Venezuela 2012 when Chavez banned private gun ownership.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.

BOYS NEED TO BE AND SHOULD BE BOYS

BOYS NEED TO BE AND SHOULD BE BOYS

By Domenick J. Maglio Ph.D. Traditional Realist

Our culture has to stop emasculating boys or men will quickly become a rarity in our nation. Men may be considered to be toxic to radical feminists but they are necessary to have a viable, diverse and healthy society.  Without men our nation could not survive. American men have been the main warriors to preserve democratic governments throughout WWI, WWII, The Korean War, the Cold War, and turmoil with the Islamic terrorists that continue today.

Nineteen-sixty radical feminists and their feminist converts in women’s study programs foolishly blame every past evil of our civilized history on men. They do this by creating a biased anti-male narrative while ignoring the impact women had on these events. The “us against them” feminist mentality has distorted and convinced young minds of both genders against normal and natural traits of males and females.  Duke University’s Women’s Studies Program concerning toxic males purports to reprogram men by “deconstructing toxic masculinity” while learning to worship femininity. Being a “good boy” today means a boy has to take on the behavior, attitudes and mannerisms of a female.

Boys fight each other then usually make up as friends, while girls often hold a grudge and back stab each other for long periods of time. Highly competitive boys who play to win are punished in public school. Most of the physically competitive activities have been eliminated in school. The energetic child who would rather run around outside rather than sit passively in a classroom is usually classified negatively by school personnel. In the past they were considered disinterested or rowdy pupils. This phase was followed by “poor students, or emotionally disturbed” when young to juvenile delinquent tendencies as teens.

Today these behavior classifications have been solidified into mental disabilities such as ADHD, Conduct Disorder, ADD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, anti social personalities or others. When boys react against being confined in a feminine school environment, predominately taught by females, they are often reprimanded by the teacher.  Rather than altering the educational environment the boys are labeled. Schools have become so unfavorable to males that they currently comprise only 40% of the graduates from college.

Boys need to be and should be boys, as our society needs tough men to remain viable and strong. Men are not only essential for procreation, protection, providing, being warriors and most importantly for raising healthy children especially the males. Fathers are more firm, no nonsense-obedience trainers, who gives their sons definitive parameters needed to remain away from anti social behavior. Male role modeling and the direct teaching of their children to deal with the harsh realities of life are imperative for the success of children.

The father sees the world from a different perspective. They understand the advantages of being risk takers with a strong dose of courage to gain advantage over other people competing for the same prize. Fathers understand the male subculture and that perseverance, mental toughness, and ability to handle adversity is the path to success. Compassion, tolerance, politeness, consensus making, manners, proper appearance, and compromise are values, attitudes and behaviors that are highly touted by the female.  This difference between the male and female perception is the reason why a two parent: father and mother family, gives the children of both genders a firm foundation for functioning in a world made of both male and female perspectives.  The distinctive difference in their approach, ideals, mannerisms and means of reaching their objectives creates interdependency between the sexes. This balance creates harmony needed in high functioning and united civilized society.

When one gender or the other totally dominates the culture, eventually the nation is weakened. When women are disrespected for all they do, the family and the nation suffer. The same happens for the males when they are not appreciated for all they do. Disunity destroys the cohesiveness that binds the male and female together making the entire unit suffer. 

The Boy Scouts accepting girls in their program does not change the differences between the genders. It does eliminate important experiences where boys can be boys that give radical feminists a victory of disbanding another sanctuary for them.  Yet the biological and other differences remain. These differences between the sexes attract and bond them together.

Boys and girls are hardwired and physiologically different because each has different functions in life to perform. God’s grand design cannot be socially engineered out of existence without causing great harm to the individuals and the very survival of the species. 

Boys and girls should be proud of their differences, not be ashamed of them. A radical, small interest group has no right to trample on young boy’s nature to satisfy their insane and selfish interest to punish half of our population.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.

CREATING SOMETHING VALUABLE TAKES FOCUS AND EFFORT

CREATING SOMETHING VALUABLE TAKES FOCUS AND EFFORT

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD Traditional Realist

Many Americans have lived an idyllic life. We have had no war reaching our soil, have a solid economy and have sufficient credit or income to purchase almost any item we want immediately.  This is truly a materialistic, instant gratification culture. Most adults like their children, want whatever they desire.  This creates a lifestyle that too often places them on the edge of insolvency. These incessant purchasers scramble to maintain their lifestyle of spending. Their offspring are left on their own to enter a fantasy world of video games, Harry Potter magic, Facebook, and instant gratification of their own wants.

These youngsters are not being taught reality, moral values, skills and rules necessary to be successful in the real business world. The parent’s belief in providing goods is more important than teaching them the skills necessary to function in the future. Modern children are victims of permissive, materialistic parenting that has been a dismal failure in preparing children for adulthood.

Their youngsters are usually oblivious to their parent’s fight to stay above water so as not to drown in debt. These children are normally not aware of the parents’ serious discussion about finances. In the children’s life, money does grow on trees. Their parents use plastic cards and miraculously everything they want is obtained with the ease of signing their name.

In our children’s heads there is no urgent motivation to mature into adulthood as they believe everything will be similar tomorrow with their parents there to care for them.  These parents do little to enlighten the children that eventually they will not be able to provide for them in the future. Children should learn the skills needed to be independent and self reliant in order to become adults and start the process of advancing in their chosen employment path.

Without parents preparing their children to be independent they will be dependent on others or the government. Our children are living in a delusional world since they never witnessed their parent’s beginning climb up the economic ladder to create an exciting and successful life. They have no idea about what it took nor do the average parents share their initial stories of hardship of starting their journey to financial security.

Many youngsters never saw their parent’s actual working place. Some might have visited their parent’s office on a special “bring your child to work day.” These occasions are more a show and tell experience not a normal workday. These unfortunate young people have little to aspire to and almost no drive to get there. These youngsters grow into young adults without realizing the tenacity and perseverance that was and still is required to maintain and advance to more demanding and higher paying positions.

The lack of real world knowledge has a significant impact on these youngster’ education. They have no academic goals to achieve for there is no reason for them to become

independent from their family. Too many are in school only for the reason that their parents insisted on it and too many act out as they see no reason to be there.

These students pass the time in school more as a social event rather than a learning experience. They do not feel they have to gain the tools to be an excellent learner. They do not realize that they need knowledge in order to open all possible options for their own future. Most do not realize the implications of being dependent on others for their needs and wants. Their autonomy to make their own decisions, choices and opportunity is limited.

Worst of all, most modern young people will have few experiences to learn the elation one feels when accomplishing something meaningful after putting your heart and soul into it. Their school experience, more often than not, was not challenging as the child’s self esteem was more important than their honest mastery of academic skills and relevant knowledge. Grade inflation can mask a poor education but does not do anything to promote a viable and excellent professional candidate for a productive and stimulating life. The person is paralyzed in a life of just getting by, never to reach their potential.

One of the most important lessons that modern parents and our public school system have not established clearly is that nothing worthwhile in life is done without focus and effort to overcome obstacles. Inner satisfaction comes from concentrated hard work to complete the project and is never as easy as was first thought. The satisfaction of creating something valuable is derived by realizing that “I did it.” Whatever the end product, the more the ingenuity, perseverance and creativity expended, the more unbelievable and amazed the individual feels that he accomplished what he set out to do. This feeling of gratification is addictive and leads to other positive deeds and successes.

Depending on others: family, friends and especially on “free government handouts” that promise everything, lead to mediocrity and a self-enslaved soul.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.

DESENSITIZING YOUR CHILD THROUGH TEASING

DESENSITIZING YOUR CHILD THROUGH TEASING

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

Almost everyone likes to be complemented although there are some who never learn to accept complements with grace. More commonly most of us do not like to be “put down” by anyone. It can become a serious issue especially if one shows others that teasing greatly aggravates them. A negative reaction to being kidded or verbally attacked is like waving a red flag in front of a bull. Many instigators enjoy getting an offended reaction from another person as a form of superior verbal fencing with each other.

The greater one’s reaction is to being teased; the more others will note the person’s vulnerability to this game. One after the other will jump into this negative interaction possibly to be befriended by the dominant personality or to ward off attacks by the perpetrator. The offended person will be unmercifully attacked by most of the others although occasionally a youngster might act as a good knight protecting the weaker child.

From the beginning of time these types of annoying incidents have happened in every culture all over the world. It is part of human nature to spar to dominate over others by verbal and physical means.  This is also seen in young animals hissing and knocking each other down in a playful way. It is a necessary stage of developing the skills to survive in the wild. Learning how to unemotionally handle personally perceived offensive comments is an important skill in a civilized society.

Several generations ago many mothers took a more proactive approach to assist their child in dealing with put-downs by giving them instruction through riddles, “sticks and stones can break your bones but names can never harm you.”  The child understood after these talks, if someone called him a pink elephant, it did not make the child one. Another phrase to protect a child is “I am rubber and you are glue, everything you say bounces off me and sticks to you.” These tactics help some children stand up to others without breaking down in anger or tears.

Currently too many mothers believe their child cannot defend himself. They see their child as a perennial victim who needs to be protected by the parents. This lack of faith in the child’s ability to stand up for himself can be reversed by parental preparation. Parents are key in training their children to appropriately respond in these types of verbal exchanges and desensitize them to ludicrous and insensitive remarks. In the past most men were less than PC with their children in order to toughen them up. High self-esteem was a non-issue but a child being able to handle himself reasonably with insensitive children was. These fathers often assessed when the child did not do his best and said, “It is horrible, do it over. “ ”You are an embarrassment to our family,” and other insensitive but common statements.  Fathers understood that sensitivity toward peer remarks was a self-defeating tactic. These fathers trained their children to develop a “thick skin” to deflect the nastiness of others.

At that time both parents knew people had two different types of sensitivity. How they feel about a statement directed at them and more importantly how others are feeling. The first sensitivity to the negative remarks about oneself should be desensitized while the sensitivity to other’s feelings is the great gift of empathy that should be enhanced. This distinction has been muddled. Parents need to emphasize the different reasons for these opposite responses. Sensitivity to the feelings of the less fortunate should be encouraged while being sensitive to every nasty remark directed at them should be ignored or played-down.

Today too many modern adults are trying to short circuit the growing up trials and tribulations by intervening in the process supposedly to protect the child from unnecessary pain. These parents unfortunately are misguided and certainly unwise. By preventing their child from honing the skills needed to deal with other children, the parent will handicap the child from becoming independent.

Good luck, parents, in making everything a federal case that might hurt your child’s feelings. The child will become a whiner, being offended by everyone and everything. Some parents even confront another child without their parent being present. A more effective and rational approach is for the parent to help their child become mentally tougher in order to deal with put-downs from other people.

Parents teasing and joking with their child assists the child in developing a tougher skin to shield him against verbal put-downs by others. By desensitizing one’s offspring to childish statements and giving the child an opportunity to understand that an offensive remark should be taken “with a grain of salt,” the child becomes immunized from breaking down in these stressful situations. It provides the child with specific comebacks to remain in control of the verbal battle. This parental training fosters emotional maturity that also leads to greater appreciation for unfortunate children who cannot defend themselves.

Parental emotional training is a wonderful gift to help their children better cope with the more difficult parts of social reality.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a new just published book, entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can visit Dr. Maglio at www.drmaglio.blogspot.com.