“THE CHILD WAS BORN THAT WAY” IS NOT AN EXCUSE

“THE CHILD WAS BORN THAT WAY” IS NOT AN EXCUSE

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

In our society a clubfoot, cleft palate or crossed eyes are a few of the human defects that have been corrected or eliminated. There are many other physical ailments that have been prevented through surgery, physical therapy, diet and medication. As these physical defects were resolved, mental health, behavioral and attitudinal issues have replaced them as significant impediments to a child’s development.

In our modern world there has been an avalanche of behavioral changes and attitudinal issues given psychological labels because of their ever-increasing frequency. Conduct disorder, hyperactivity, delayed development in many areas, explosive disorder, learning disabilities, dyslexia, and ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) are just a few. The list is growing exponentially with more and more difficulties that parents are not home to correct before they solidify into a habitual problem behavior.

Each child is unique, having strengths and weaknesses. Some are very compliant, and others become more defiant. Those who are defiant can learn to become more easy going. Too many children continue with their tendencies making them more and more obnoxious and difficult to deal with. When children are young their parents are supposed to be training them to be as normal as possible. Presently the concept of “normal” has been greatly expanded, losing its boundaries. Therefore, almost everything is acceptable. This is confusing to parents who were raised with specific behavioral expectations that were preferable to the ones their child currently exhibits. Parents were taught what was normal or abnormal when they grew up. Modern parents are ignoring many of their children’s embarrassing behaviors instead of changing them as a result.

One significant difficulty is there are too many children who have little contact with their mothers. Working mothers are at a greater disadvantage than stay at home mothers to assist their child’s development. It is difficult for them to know their child as well as they could with such limited time to interact with and observe them.

With both modern parents working, this job of training the child to be appropriate has often been turned over to surrogate parents and eventually a therapist. Usually the first thing the specialist does after the initial interview with the client and family is to create a treatment plan. Often the child is labeled with a medical or psychological diagnosis, which relieves parents of further responsibility. They only need to follow the professional’s prescriptions. This takes the parents off the hook for the lack of time spent in loving discipline and places it solely upon the youngster and therapist. Parents shirking their duty to teach their children how to act properly is unacceptable.

This leaves the child feeling he has a defect beyond his control and has to depend on the professional. As the child matures into an adult he becomes more of a victim. In his own mind he relies more on his diagnosis as an excuse for whatever he did not achieve, attributing it to the diagnostic label. This relieves him of personal responsibility.

Taking the child to an expensive professional who diagnoses the child with a mental disorder does not resolve the issue. The parents know they had a lack of time and did not take the opportunity to correct the child’s tendencies before they became habitual.

Currently a growing number of females are choosing to return to the role of being a mother at home. This decision by the parents to sacrifice their second income for their child’s well-being is a sacrifice that can pay great dividends.

Many parents are becoming aware that there are a series of problems with their lack of intimacy with their own child. A number of husbands are attempting to be the caregivers at home. This usually does not work very well. Men are usually not suitable for this task. Mothers, with their maternal instincts are better able to entertain, teach and nurture their children. Husbands can compensate for these natural feminine abilities but many men burn out with their lack of instinctual abilities and return to the workplace.

At the adolescent developmental stage, the parents will have to use tough love to save their child’s future. The parents need to end the child’s younger inappropriate behavior. They will be there for them, not to bail them out, instead to love and encourage them to personally take control of their lives. 

“The child was born that way” is a pathetic and false excuse. Discipline, love, intimacy and parental power lead the way to a normal, mature and successful adult.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a recent book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

ESTABLISHMENT BUREAUCRACY OR “THE GOVERNMENT OF THE PEOPLE”

ESTABLISHMENT BUREAUCRACY OR “THE GOVERNMENT OF THE PEOPLE”

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

In our present election system, two or more parties nominate a candidate to run for president every four years. The winner of the Electoral College becomes the president. The founders believed and had faith that the power of the people would be the best method to select the head of the executive branch with certain precautions to prevent wild swings from one election to another. The newly elected president was granted the power to act in the best interest of all the people of the US not only for the interest of the establishment elites.

Under President Woodrow Wilson the intellectual progressive experts accelerated the process of replacing the popular consent of the people as the authority in making policy. They reasoned bureaucratic experts are better informed to make the decisions for the executive branch of government. The administration became the province of the “rational experts” in the bureaucracy.

This is the reason today embedded bureaucrats make most policy decisions rather than elected representatives. This power of the bureaucracy in the executive branch expanded in the growth spurt of progressive administrations. It exploded in FDR’s “New Deal” and LBJ’s “Great Society” and continued under succeeding ones. Many of these establishment elites have been continually in Washington, D.C. administrations for 30 to 40 years and have been shielded from obvious insubordination by federal civil service protections. They have become the permanent unelected policy brain trust.

When a president is elected to change the status of the bureaucratic establishment the elites naturally fight back to preserve the ideas, procedures, protocol and power they created over time. The overturning of a duly elected president by the people’s vote has proven to be slow and laborious for the progressive republicans and democrats. Waiting for four years for a new election has infuriated bureaucratic elites who have established the “acceptable protocol” for governing even for the executive branch.

This bypasses the intentions of our founders, which had been common practice with the previous administrations. An outside disrupter appeared on the stage in 2016 as president of the United States. President Trump’s campaign and election promises were diametrically opposed to the status-quo globalist agenda. In three years of his presidency he has proven to be everything, and more that the established elites feared.

Inevitably this left the progressives two options: one to wait four years for a new election. The second one is to use divisive means to manufacture a scandal that sways public opinion against President Trump to force him out of office. They are attempting to do this through the innuendo impeachment process perfected against Supreme Court candidates, Robert Bork, Justice Clarence Thomas, Justice Brent Kavanaugh and other candidates for the court.

The reason President Trump has survived the elite establishment’s subversive attacks is because he put in place a politically sophisticated team of lawyers and politicians to counterattack the veracity of the fake media and corrupt heads of agencies. He used Twitter to go over their heads and communicate directly with the people bypassing the 24-hour news cycle. This direct communication format has worked to thwart the establishment attacks.

Without “draining of the swamp” the bureaucrat elites will continue to do everything they can to discredit any president who does not follow their script. They bide their time for a more progressively aligned future president who will work with them to smother the people’s voice. There have been many laws disregarded and callously broken by members of the establishment that must have legal consequences or the unelected bureaucrats will be emboldened to make a further mockery of the people’s voice.

The justice department will have to reassert its rightful power to prosecute arrogant, well-connected political elites. We must again establish that no one, even embedded and long term protected bureaucrats, can get away with lying, withholding or destroying pertinent evidence and blatantly misusing their power.

If this necessary and ugly process does not take place it will be inevitable that the insidious shadow government will reassert itself in more vigorous evil acts. Our founders mistrusted government to pursue the will of the people. They did everything conceivable to think of checks and balances to prevent our elected representatives from abusing their power but did not conceive of the development of a bureaucratic elite.

The monster growth of an enormous bureaucracy with extraordinary power was probably not on their radar. Yet they left us many levers of power, laws and procedures to prevent unelected officials from usurping power. Let the necessary process begin to drain the bureaucratic swamp and set us back on the correct course.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN  and a recent book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING In a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.

PROTECT OUR MEN AND BOYS

PROTECT OUR MEN AND BOYS

By Domenick J. Maglio PhD. Traditional Realist

Males are being victimized in our present progressive culture. There has been an over correction from our patriarchal roots where men were the breadwinners and women were the center of the home and family. The 1960s Sexual Cultural Revolution was not only about sex but about changing the traditional roles of men and women. Females were no longer to be seen as sexual objects or as wives, mothers and supporters of their husbands. These women were victims of sexism according to the feminist narrative. Women had to be “liberated” through government intervention.

The progressive democrat and republican politicians not only liberated females with discriminatory programs that punished men for being genetically different. Discrimination against men became government policy. Any loud verbal protests from the male in a domestic argument usually resulted in the police arresting the man by department policy.

These men were put in jail for a cooling off period while the woman remained in the residence. In most cases the male was reported to be the perpetrator even though in approximately half of the abuse case population the woman initiated the physical encounter. The justification for this policy is men’s larger size tilts the scale of justice against them. The same prejudice against men is seen in divorce decrees. Regardless of the man’s impeccable reputation and the woman’s negative character often these factors have little impact on the justice decrees that usually favor the female.

Public schools have become feminized institutions favoring girls over boys. Boys make up more than two thirds of all special education students. They are seven times more likely to be diagnosed as hyperactive than are girls, have a higher dropout rate from school, receive 90% more Ds and Fs in public schools and spend significantly more time playing video games. As children, boys have a higher rate of institutionalization than girls.

The transition to adulthood follows the same path. Males make up 90% of all incarcerated inmates. Men are at higher risk than females for obesity, they make up twice the number of drug addicts and four times the number of suicides. Men also have a propensity to stay longer in their parent’s home and are getting married later and have a lower rate of employment than women.  All this has taken place while females are still supposed to be the “repressed victims” and men are erroneously thought to be masters of the privileged class.

In the 1970s men made up 58% of students attending college and now women have reversed that to be 57% of the student population is female with only 43% of men as students in college. Women also comprise a greater number of graduate school students than do men. The STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) programs are still focused on promoting females into science and math undergraduate and graduate programs. These programs continue to expand for girls to receive special scholarships just for them. Title IX programs still exist to help females be more competitive in our entire education system. Although females have already surpassed men in attendance in undergraduate and graduate university programs the selection committee guidelines still favor females over men in most cases.

These extraordinary statistical reversals in male-female indicators in school, work, mental stability and productivity should cause a reexamination of our federal discrimination policies. The government intervention programs need to change to even the playing field for men. Rethinking would necessitate a shift in emphasis and approaches to protect and serve boys and men to function and succeed better in this over governmentally regulated world.

We need to retool public school to more effectively meet the physical and mental health realities for boys in school. Colleges and universities have to encourage more open debate on social issues and stop progressive indoctrination that eliminates logical and pragmatic solutions to problems directly effecting males. All schools need to make the environment more male friendly.

The entrance criteria for colleges has to be based not only on GPA and standard academic testing but also on accomplishments in life outside of school. These life experiences provide problem solving skills that augment other academic skills in more advanced studies and occupations.

It is time to stop punishing boys for being boys and men for being men. Half of our genetic population should not be mistreated. Both sexes have their own issues which does not mean one has to be the victim and the other the privileged.

Reversing who is the victim and who is the privileged is not the answer. Both genders are needed to function on their optimal level to have a productive nation.

Domenick Maglio, PhD. is a columnist carried by various newspapers, an author of several books and owner/director of Wider Horizons School, a college prep program. Dr. Maglio is an author of weekly newspaper articles, INVASION WITHIN and a new book entitled, IN CHARGE PARENTING in a PC World. You can see many of Dr. Maglio’s articles at www.drmaglioblogspot.com.